Finally...... Such a huge weight lifted. So here's the skinny, visited DH fam then my fam. Satan spawn cried half the time we were away and moped around because he missed his sisters birthday. I pointed out that he never even calls on DS birthday, to which I got no response. Same things as in the previous post apply.... The bed wetting sidnt get any better. We bought him plastic underpants and nighttime adult poise paDs. He Wouldn't bathe ( pretty sure he took all of four showers in two and a half weeks) or wash hands or put the toilet seat up and wash his hands without being told. We dropped him off at his mothers on our way home.
Got a phone call from my fam halfway home. SS left soiled underwear between the couch cushions where he'd been sleeping. dHs family called because they'd found his toothbrush. Apparently every time he been asked if he'd brushed his teeth he lied about it. Both families found multiple items of clothing all over their houses. Turns out when I got home and unpacked he'd lost all but 3 changes of clothes. DH says he checked his stuff....obviously he didn't do a great job. DH doesn't take much responsibility for anything and it's getting old.