When DH first took BM to court for visitation he was dead set on not upsetting her too much and he rejected all my suggestions on what to ask for. What he got was: fathers day, a month in the summer and an agreement to discuss holidays.

I rolled my eyes at "to discuss" but he was happy. You can probably guess how that has gone but I'll spell it out. BM has had Thanksgiving and DH a few hours on Christmas. Annd every year it starts out as SD is sick so she can't come over or BM is uncomfortable.

This year she us uncomfortable with our roommate I blogged about the flashing incident (since deleted). This is the same girl that ran in on him in the bathroom 2 weeks prior, the same BM that has male company sleep over in the room she shares with SD, the same BM that has a roommate with a close in age son to SD.

Last Suday BM laid out her terms for Christmas: since she (BM) is uncomfortable, SD can come over Christmas, Monday Tuesday and Wednesday but she can't stay the night. BM is going to pick her up at night and drop her off at 7 in the morning because BM still has to go to work at 9.

BM also doesn't think that SD should spend the month at our house unless DH pays to put her in a summer program. DH doesn't work in the day time so that would be a waste of moneyl, plus that would really take away the time he has to spend with his daughter.

BM also thinks that DH should start paying half of SD insurance. I have blogged about that previously but here's the short hand: BM got a better job and earns too much for SD to get Medicaid. BM didn't report this income to Child Support but because she has to renew state aid every 6 months, it all came out. Her plan was to wait for open season, this month, but I guess it is too expensive. DH said he will not be giving her a check in hand ( per her request) and to take him to court for it.

She said she didn't want to have to go back to court for this. Wow, because this is the same BM that took him back to court every 6 months for 2 years for child support. I am sure that if they were to go back to court this time, his portion would go down just based off of the fact that she has more income. His job also closed down and the new job he has he doesn't make any more than what he was making. His support already went down the last time she took him which is why she stopped taking him every 6 months.

DH said that no matter what he is taking her back to court for visitation. This has happened too many times where BM tries to manipulate the situation her way. She actually asked him to ignore the court order and think about what was best for SD for the summer visit. But if he were to ignore the court order and not pay child support it would be a different story.