Rant about ET
Just need to get this out of my system.
YSS goes back to school full-time starting next week. The school made a last-minute decision based on COVID cases.
For those of you who are in the know, you know that DH and I aren't living in YSS's school district yet, so now we have to figure out how to get and pick up YSS from school everyday. The getting there part is easy. The getting home at 2:30 in the afternoon? Less so.
Anyway, I just want to scream at ET. Her inability to be a functioning member of society has caused this. Sure, there are other factors that caused this, too, that I don't want to discount. Part of this is chickens coming home to roost from previous decisions DH and/or I have made.
BUT, the fact that all of this was super last-minute, and unplanned, and that ET has been totally absent just kills me. Let's also add in that she reached out to OSS to meet up with him this weekend for lunch (he came down for the weekend for "Spring Break" since they shortened it this year), but did she reach out to YSS to meet up with BOTH her kids? NOPE! I think she's still pouty that YSS is being distant, which to me means you should try harder to find out the problem versus ignoring him at the first sign of trouble, but whatever. He has a therapist that she could be asking DH about and having a joint session with, which DH would be very open towards.
I'm just frustrated. I'm tired. YSS has been good and getting better. This isn't his fault by any means. Now that the boys are older, I'm struggling hardcore with their mother acting more like a child than they do.
*deep breath*
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Hang in there, Lt.
Take deep breaths and stay strong. I'm glad YSS is doing better. I'm so glad this boy has you in his life. Please take care of you.
Thank you. I'm trying to take
Thank you. I'm trying to take care of myself. I think once we get moved and settled, I'll be less angry. It's all the flux right now that has me on edge.
Ugh. You know that YSS has to
Ugh. You know that YSS has to feel abandoned.
Can he go home with a friend after school and wait there for you guys to pick him up?
Based on how he responded
Based on how he responded last night, I think there is some relief in the abandonment. Like "I wish she was in a position that she could care, but I'm glad she doesn't right now".
As for the friend, it's possible. With COVID, I don't want to put that on another family, though. We have family that would be willing to help out that are vaccinated that we could pay, so I'm not concerned so much as annoyed.
Is there the possibility for
Is there the possibility for YSS to remain at school for a few hours? I remember at my high school there were plenty of kids in the building after school let out. One of my friends sat in the school library until 5:30 every day doing her homework and studying because she had siblings in sports and her mom picked them all up at the same time. I don't know if that's discouraged now because of Covid, though. If he could do that for even a day or two each week it'd make planning a bit easier. Plus he could get lots of homework done!
You seem to be handling this amazingly well. I would have made a voodoo doll of ET by now and be spending significant time and creativity on such doll.
I was also going to suggest
I was also going to suggest the hanging out at school.. not sure they allow it with COVID.
Hopefully I'm wrong but, YSS is not going to be back with ET ever. She's done. That's my opinion though from what you describe. It's been two months now...? And no sign of anything. You guys should start trying to figure out what you want to do about her. Whether, child support, new custody etc.
It's sad but, sounds like it's the best option for YSS.
Are there any after school
Are there any after school programs in the district he can be bussed to? Is he close with anyone he can go to thier house after school for a few hours? Could you are DH change your work hours so one drops off and the other does pick up?
My SO would schedule his lunch break so he could pick up SKs from school.
((((HUGS))))))
((((HUGS))))))