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My SD8 has a bad habbit of treating people they they are there to serve her.
This is not an all the time thing. There are times when she is geniuenly sweet and loving. But other times her narcissim seems extreme for an 8 year old. I get all children can be selfish, so please dont' think that everytime she seems to be only concrened with herself Im freaking out that she is showing signs of narcissitic personality disorder (but sometimes I do actually worry)
This moring she started doing the "its not my fault" crap with me over something small and stupid. I told her that wont work for me. I said "when you say its not my fault, you are saying it is really sombeody elses fault. You are responsible for what you say and do, you cannot blame others for your behavior or words."
The bigger issue was that she tried to walk through a doorway of a room that her grammie was mopping. Instead of saying "excuse me" or "may I get through" she tried to just push her way through by pushing grammie off to the side without saying a word.
Her grammie and I both told her that was rude. I told her "You cant treat people like that, you dont own the world"
A few minutes later I went to leave for work and went to give her a hug goodbye. She was in a corner pouting. I asked her why she was upset and she started crying about how she wished her grammie was not so busy and would hire a new person (grammie runs a day care) becuase she "never gets to see my grammy anymore" (she goes to grammies every morning to catch the bus, and everyday after school). I feel like the crying and pity party was more because she did not like the scolding she got and was looking for sympathy.
Her father is very supportibve when I call her on her behavior and is not one to make excusses for her behavior. We have been pretty much on the same page as far as recognizing what we feel is unacceptable behavior. (he has primary cuustody for the last 4 years)
I want her to devlop into a respectful, caring, productive person, but sometimes her behavior and attitude make me think she is turning into a true narcissist. I dont want that life for her.
Her mother is like that and because her mother has refused to take accountability (everything including her criminal history is other peoples fault) cant hold down a job, or a stable place to live becaus she puts her desires before her responsbilities. I DO NOT want SD to live like that. SD is smarter than her mother and is better able to see the reality of the world better than her mother who lives in a fantasy land, so I pray there is hope that SD will figure things out.
But I do worry. Contact with BM is limited so at least there is that but I worry she is truely her mothers daughter
Any advice is welcome