How much is to much?
Ok so I need parenting advice...
my Sd11 was an absolute monster this morning.
She was at the child care place her grandmother owns. This is where she catches the bus every morning. She was telling the staff that she can do whatever she wants because her grandmother owns the place, trying to physically intimidate one memeber of the staff, lying, throwing a fit while waiting for the bus, to the point that her grandmother physically control her because she was so out of control.
this is totally unlike her. She has given sass before and some attitude, but nothing like this.
DH is not happy, And there will be consequences.
The consequences he wants to do is she losses the special outing she was going to get to have this weekend, and loss of her phone for a week or more.
I was thinking it should be all of the above, plus loss of tv.
He is worried that over punishing her will just cause her to rebel later or act out even more... he thinks she will focus more on being angry at us for losing all her privlages or look at it through the "I have nothing else to lose" mentality and continue the behavior. He says that's basically how he reacted as kid and he ended up rebelling hard as a teenager.
I don't understand it because I was never really relabelous.
do you think he's being to soft or am I being to harsh?
her behavior is totally unacceptable, but I know and understand that she is dealing with a lot. Hormones have hit, she found out her biomom is back to her old ways (drugs, arrrests, jail, lying to her). So has a valid reason to be angry so there is that... but that does not give her a free pass to act like such a jerk.
I suggested that as a compromise the phone is revoked, the outing is canceled and no tv privileges until she writes a letter of apology to her grandmother and the staff.
I would love to hear some feedback.
what do you think is an appropriate consequence?