Talk me off the ledge ladies!!!
So, last weekend MIL informed us that BM would not be picking up SD5 until her birthday, which is April 15th. We were not informed of this beforehand. BM tried to tell DH that she was confused about the schedule but that is a crock of youknowwhat. How do you go 5 weeks without seeing your kid and then claim you were "confused about the schedule"? Also, we are kind of assuming that BM won't actually be picking SD up that day because she works at H&R Block and April 15th is tax day. Last year she claimed to be working 24 hours straight that day and couldn't bring herself to spend more than 2 minutes talking to SD before school on her birthday.
Don't even get me started on why BM is telling MIL this instead of DH.
Anyway, today SD5 started crying because she "misses mommy." I have half a mind to text BM and tell her her daughter is crying because she hasn't had any contact with her in two weeks and she needs to get off her butt and call her kid.
Talk some sense into me ladies. Tell me not to do it!!!!
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Tax day this year is April
Tax day this year is April 18. Washington D.C. celebrates Emancipation Day - which is the day President Lincoln signed into law the bill ending slavery. Emancipation Day is usually on April 16, but this year that is a Saturday, so it is being celebrated on April 15. So tax day is moved to April 18.
And - don't call BM.
Well that makes it even less
Well that makes it even less likely she will pick up SD on her birthday. That will go over well.
Your mother in law should not
Your mother in law should not be getting involved at all. Next time she needs to say to bio mom that she needs to tell you guys yourself instead of sticking her nose in too.
You can't call bio mom yourself your partner must do it. If the child becomes upset it's okay to acknowledge it but it is up to your partner to take the needed action. I know it's hard esp what you want to go over and whip BM butt but you have to stay on the sidelines
Maybe if your engaged you could do something with step daughter a special early bday treat for both you ladies and distract her a bit?
Agree with all of this. MIL
Agree with all of this. MIL should not be involved, and should not agree to pass messages from BM to DH.
Why can't SD call BM on DH's phone?
Oops, I just saw this. She
Oops, I just saw this.
She could have but he was working so SD was home with me.
If the thought of going over
If the thought of going over a month without seeing her kid doesn't move her maternal soul, then your phone call won't motivate her either. Save your time and breath, console the girl the best you can and talk to your DH about getting her into some therapy.