The SDs coming semi dread
They are definitely not bad kids and because BM took them out of town we haven't seen them for a week.
My fear is that BM will pull her dumbassery and say they are welcome to stay over. Holidays are usually discussed but no mention of the 4th has come up
It's our weekend starting Friday night but DH and I both have things that HAVE to done ( ss office for my name change - both of us for licenses at the DMV. Very non kid friendly places) and BM is a bit odd about scheduling ( sometimes DH has to wait for her to pick up only to have to drive them back because "car trouble "... Same car she just drove the kids two states away in after the fact. She only pulls this when we agree to watch them on off days.. odd..)
Learning Russian now so we can talk about parenting more when the kids are here. Oldest got a ceramic lil dog for something in school. Dog sat on the coffee table for 3 months but I noticed both skids were using it to mark the wooden table.
I put it away today so it's not there tomorrow night. He asks why I show him the table. Slight shock and horror but he understood. Problem is that I don't want to say these things when the kids are here because when I mention it he'll get pissed and they sort of know who pushed him to it I know that narrative will not end well. Same with food all over the table- cups left etc .
Good luck with the holiday weekend steptalk!
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So - I was disengaged, but I
So - I was disengaged, but I could have said to my SS, "Can you please put this dog elsewhere, it's scratching up the table. And please put your cups/plates in the sink." DH would back me up. Why can't any of that be said?
This -- to me disengagement
Means leaving strictly kid things up to dad. No nagging re homework, no attending teacher conferences. It does not mean your house should be a mess. Would you tell a neice or a kid's friend, no feet on the table? I assume you would.
Right, you are still the
Right, you are still the adult and she is the child. But if my SS had refused to do any of that, then DH would take over.
Hey tog
I'm actually disengaged from disciplining the girls myself.
I used to but the problem was the kids just did not listen but would to DH if he raised his voice. I don't want to be associated with that so I stopped.
Let him be the parent - I'm going with cool aunt .
I totally was the cool aunt,
I totally was the cool aunt, too. I did not do any discipline. And I would have said to my real nieces the very same thing - move this dog, please, it's scratching up the table, and put your dishes in the sink.
That's not discipline, that's asking for something to be done. If they don't do it, then the discipline starts. Don't give up all of the power you have just as being an adult.
Stupid phones vs steptalk
Stupid phones vs steptalk software erasing my post
Quick summary- DH decides to syrup up the girl ( SD6) ice cream to hell and back
I see her literally trying to catch the spoon to her mouth.
I say jack s--t
Her dress and the table dressing has chocolate everywhere. I mention this. He gets a silent god damnit moment
Mind you we rent a furnished townhouse and he is responsible for any issues if they happen . Checkmate DH.