Happy Dadmas? No? Ok..
Well Dadmas ( our weekend prior to the holiday) started off... Great.
SD4 has a bad cough. So we definitely wanted her Friday night regardless (SD7 will get a cold soon as they are always together) plus this is our only time to give them their gifts.
Both of the kids were happy and grateful for the gifts . SD4 asked to go home at 10. Fine used to it. Could go on a rant on how it's BM and Dh's fault
So we have a great morning with SD7. SD4 is to be dropped off at 1 to go to Grandpa's with us.
Smart option 1 for BM: keep her in bed. She's sick get her some rest
Smart option 2: have her dressed in layers so at least she's warm and comfy
Option 3: send her in the Disney nightgown from my mom last night ( not warm) and plastic play heels
Guess ! Guess which one !!
If it was 3 congrats - here's your imaginary prize
So we go to Grandpa's. Kiddo is sick . We are doubting everything but too late now.
My SIL.has laid out a great platter. There's video games. There's adults that love them. Basically a no conflict zone
Well we get SD4 tea which she agreed with. Out of nowhere she starts bawling. And nothing can console her. DH gets fed up and asks if she wants to go home to mom. She nods and he gets ready to go.
In the meantime my sister in law calmed her but DH was too fed up so he took her home.
When DH was out his family and I talked about everything. He and BM created this. While its on them it hurts us
I sit across my sleeping SD7 and I understand and know our bond. It took years but I love this kid. I can't say the same for SD4. She's cute but her mother owns her head space. Her dad's family wants to be in her world so badly but these weird fits ( yes she's young - yes she's sick ) make DH give up.
I'm not really asking for advice just venting. I can't do anything but be the best step mom to SD7 and love SD4 as things go