SD loses my trust
We had our son's 2nd birthday party this weekend at my house.So my BC and SC were here...along with family and friends.My oldest SD (she is 11)had my video vamera and sneaks upstairs with it to goof around with it with her friends.So turns out they are in my room..no big deal...BF retrieves the camera and brings it back to me.Later my SD tells me that she wanted to do a video on thongs and proceeded to go thru my underwear draw and pull out some of my intimates (if you know what I mean).SD then shows them to her friends and my youngest SD (she is 7).I was furious.So her dad (my BF) tells her that he friends need to leave and the sleepover she was going to have isn't happening.OH and that next time she is here she needs to help with my laundry.But then he lets her stay up until 12 am and watch a movie with us.Am I crazy to think that that defeats the purpose of punishing her.
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SD was totally out of line.
SD was totally out of line. I have strict rules about entering a parent bedroom...not allowed without permission. Certainly, she has no business bringing her friends into your bedroom, but showing them your panties and intimates...I would be furious. That is a total invasion of your privacy and might I add, totally disrespectful. What motive could she possibly have to have done such a thing.
Secondly, the video camera should not be in a child's hands. Too expensive to replace or fix if broken. My kids aren't allowed to use our video camera without permission, and certainly not unsupervised. I won't even let them use my digital camera for the same reasons.
I would definitely have a private talk with her and let her know you're disappointed in her actions. That you feel like she invaded your privacy by firstly entering your bedroom without permission and secondly displaying your intimates for her friends to see. My God, how embarrassing you must have felt. Maybe she'll get the picture.
I'd grab a pair of HER
I'd grab a pair of HER undies, fasten them to a sheet of posterboard and then write below in big, bold letters: THESE ARE SD'S PANTIES! Tell her you're going to put it on a stake in the front yard to display for all YOUR friends to see. Of course, you wouldn't really do that, but give her a taste of her own medicine and see how she likes it. She'd be mortified! My son (just turned 9) totally freaked out the other day at Wal-Mart because I asked him, "Do your underwear still fit or is it time to pick up some new ones?" Now, we were totally alone in the aisle, no one around and no one could hear my voice. He was so embarrassed! He got an ugly look and said something ugly to me about embarrassing him in the store, then stormed off. So I just got louder and said, "BS9, are your undies too small?! Do you want to buy some new underwear today, BS9?" I thought he was going to die! But it taught him to just answer yes or no, and to not make a big deal out of it. The way he was acting in the store was way more embarrassing than my offering to buy him new underwear. She crossed a line. Turnabout is fair play. Give her something to think about.
~ Anne ~
My daughters did this to
My daughters did this to their sister a couple years ago, it was hilarious. They put her undies on the lamp post outside for the neighborhood boys to see. It was to prove a point, that she didn't change her undies daily and they were disgusting and crusty! She was beyond furious, and might I add I wasn't home when this occurred. However, silently I was busting a gut inside! It worked, she was mortified.
Anne 8102
You're so funny.
Lacey
Thanks, Lacey!
My son doesn't think so.
~ Anne ~
I'm right up there with Anne
about the undies poster...
I think you should let her have a PJ party, and while all her friends are there, bring a load of laundry into the living room filled with SD's undies... make sure it's the ones with all those cute little babyish characters, and fold them right there and then in front of everyone... make a big production of it. Oh Look, these are SOOO CUTE. SD, where did you get these?