Sometimes life isn't about YOU
Or YOUR FEELINGS, or YOUR 'NEEDS', or wants, or whatever it is you do with your life BM. Somethings are about US, and SD8 sometimes needs to be with US and sometimes you need to put on your BIG GIRL PANTIES and let life happen. Yes, it was gracious of you to allow SD to go to her grandfathers funeral.. HOWEVER, if you were going to call at 5 after the random time you dictated she be home by to harrass FDH. Maybe you should have just kept her home.
We did not agree to said dictated time, we told you that we didn't know when we could get her back. YOU are a bitch. You should not have planned a sleep-over for SD on the SAME NIGHT as her grandfathers funeral, THAT YOU KNEW ABOUT a week (really a few weeks) in advance. FIL passed away in June, you were told then that the celebration of life would be pushed off to today, because it is his birthday. Couldn't you have just left FDH and his family ALONE for one day? ONE DAY.
Somethings, you self-centered cretin, are more important than you. This was one of them.