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SDs Dr. appointment

KiFire's picture

BM1 isn't FDH's secretary. This is what she tells him whenever he asks her (quoting the CO) to let him know when Sd7's appointments are. Which has been hard for us to keep up with ourselves because she changes them all the time. but, she got a new insurance plan and the new office is the same office FDH's company uses for their random drug testing, so FDH has a patient portal account. The office linked his with SD7's so he get's an email if an appointment is cancelled, made, or missed. So now we always know, and for the first time in months FDH was able to just show up to an appointment and actually BE there and speak with the doctor.

He asked point blank if SD was able to go outside at night, Dr. said yes. He also asked the Dr to clarify with BM1 that SD's Flovent should not be given willy nilly, but once in the morning and once at night, which she did. Then BM needed to add in her 'concerns' about SD's development. BM1 thinks SD is too young to be developing breasts and it's bothering her that something else may be wrong with SD. Dr. told BM it's because SD is overweight. FDH took the chance to ask if they could have an appointment soon to discuss SDs weight as he is concerned about it also. BM tried to make him look like an ass 'Just cause YOU and YOUR WIFE think SD is FAT doesn't mean--!" FDH cut her off and said "Actually I'm worried because as we all know SD has this syndrome and it causes weak joints, we saw that she has mild scoliosis and as I understand she is now having bad pains in her hip. Pain that BM has insisted SD needs PT for. I am worried, as her parent, that many of these issues could be totally avoided if SD was at a healthy weight. I also think her hips and knees will benefit from her being more active. I want to see her grow up and have a normal happy life, not one full of appointments and PT." The doctor agree'd and in April at SD's regular Physical she will take a new height and weight and then discuss a lifestyle change for BM and SD if things don't improve. I was just so stinking proud that he opened his mouth and didn't let her make him seem like a dick to this doctor.

They also worked out what will be going on this weekend, I'm in a Saturday morning class and can't drive FDH to pick up SD, he needed to change the time or BM needs to drive SD to him. FDH has been calling them for weeks but nobody ever answers the damned phone or calls him back. BM let him know that her Grandfather died and she plans on keeping SD for the funeral. He said it's fine but if she doesn't hand him a signed note stating he will get a make-up day next weekend he will file her in contempt on Monday. She had to be nice because they were at the doctors office, couldn't let them see her being a lunatic. But I get the feeling if he hadn't shown up, they were just going to keep SD and not tell him about it. I also don't think he'll get the make up time, he doesn't either. Oh well, we're STILL waiting on the relief from order and the last contempt to go through. The court system is slower than molasses in the cold.

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SituationalTourettes's picture

My apologies, I'm new to your story. May I ask what condition your SD has?

Two of my kids are considered special needs, one with autistic spectrum and the other with ADD. They also have a cousin with Aspergers and another cousin with a melting pot of physical and mental issues stemming from a little known chromosomal condition called FG Syndrome. That poor boy has spent half his 13 yrs in the hospital.

I say good for you and your husband that you are strong, proactive, loving people that are actively engaged in that little girl's health and well being. BM sounds like a selfish fool to think she can use her daughter's condition to play games.

KiFire's picture

SD7 has Sticklers Syndrome. Most of the time it presents at birth with a clef pallette. But SD was incredibly lucky in a sense that it lay pretty dormant.. all she has to deal with is weaker than normal joints, though there is a much higher potential of early arthritis if nobody is proactive about her health. BM loooves that SD is special and pushes her around in a stroller, which is the opposite of helpful for this. She also has lattice degeneration in her eyes that she inherited from FDH (which is why I drive most of the time) but the only real protection she needs for that is she shouldn't be playing kickball or soccer. A hard blow to her head could cause her retinas to detach.