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Weddings about planned, marriage ALREADY over?

Rose.Colored.Glasses's picture

It's been a few monthss since I've been on and it's not because everything's hunky dory; just hasn't been any new developments.

It's gotten to a point now to where I think this relationship is over.

I'm so sick of him coddling the girl's and not only denying SD7's sociopathy. He backs go and forth on whether he thinks she has a problem. He completely agrees she has no empathy for others however...go figure.

There's now a situation in which SD's BM is saying her potential stepson introduced himself to my son at School. According to this kid my son told him to fuck off and don't ever talk to him again.

1. I've never heard my son cuss or talk to anyone like this
2. This is the same kid that taught SD how to spell "fuck" and what it means

So no, I don't believe it. I think BM is trying to start shit. They have a problem child and are trying to skirt the issue.

On top of it all, FDH, who has never met this kid, and also says he never heard BS say anything like this, seemingly believes BM.

There's no instance in which these kids would have met. They go to different schools and have never laid eyes on each other. Further more, how did he know who BS was to introduce himself?

It's like FDH and BM are teaming up to deny their kids sociopathy and trying to deflect it.

So the next time BM has this kid in the car, BS is going to come out and we're going to have a conversation. I'm calling out the liar and the shit starters. Because if on the other hand, it turns out BS did say this, I need the opportunity to teach him a lesson.

So yes, I've had it. We moved 9/7 and I think FDH has slept on the couch almost every night. By the way, maybe not a big deal to some, but I found a pic of FDH and BM hidden in FDH's drawer.

So yes, I think I'm done here. Am I being ridiculous? Idk...tell me your thoughts. I'll explain more if needed.

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Monchichi's picture

Rose, as a mother you are probably being a bit closed minded about the potential of your son telling this kid off. I think BM is also being close minded by taking the other boys word without a proper investigation of the facts.

Special needs children break up "original/ first" families. Why would they not affect step families? Your FH sleeping on the couch is very telling.

Are you sure that you as a family are not going through a bumpy ride? I have them on and off. Mine was 1.5 years of bliss, 1,5 years of cloud cuckoo land and now going into year 4 we have married and are very much in love. We have a system that works for us and we're muddling our way through happily.

Rose.Colored.Glasses's picture

I don't think I'm being closed-minded. You must not have read this part: "Because if on the other hand, it turns out BS did say this, I need the opportunity to teach him a lesson."

Saying anything like what he's accused of would get him in deep shit with me.

We may just be having a rough patch...I hope that's all it is.

Rose.Colored.Glasses's picture

He says he just falls asleep watching TV. He's a night owl and I'm just the opposite. He's usually going to bed an hour before I get up for work.

You're exactly right about BM's potential stepson. He can fuck off as far as I'm concerned. I just hate people trying to cause problems where there aren't any.

I never said anything to anyone about the photo. Not even FDH knows that I know he has it.

As far as the coddling, it wouldn't bother me if SD7 didn't whine and cry like she's two. She steps all over him and he gives in just to shut her up. Now he's doing it to my BD3. She's starting to be just as whine, if not worse. When she gets in trouble now, she'll scream "FDH! FDH! Like I'm beating her. This goes on at bedtime now. I'm sick of him giving into their every need and desire. My BD is starting to act like SD. The only reason I care. That child is a terrible influence.

I know SD and BM don't want this. SD asks FDH why he doesn't live with her and BM all the time still. BM makes her relationship with her BF seem serious when it's not. She's been saying for over a year, maybe two, that she's moving in with him. Well, her lease is up and she's moving to the town he lives in (also the town we live in barf) but not in with him.

So ya, all that.

hereiam's picture

Why is he sleeping on the couch?

Have you asked him about the picture?

Why would he believe BM, especially if the boys do not even go to the same school?

ctnmom's picture

If my child got dragged into drama due to who I'm with, I wouldn't be with that person anymore. First I would get to the bottom of it. And when I found out that my son was lied about (which it sounds like to me), I would pack my things and leave. Not messing around with liars who could ruin my/my kids life.