Step-Daughter Hiatus - Scheduling Pains
So the fiance and I are on our downtime from SD3. I have gotta say, it's been a relaxing break in between holidays. While waiting for her return, I thought I would reach out on a subject I have had many comments on. Our schedule.
After the divorce, BM moved to another state. This has put serious strain on the schedule with SD. We were on a week on/week off schedule with her, but 8 hours in the vehicle every single Sunday just seemed like torcher and she wasn't doing too well with it. We have since changed to a 2week on/off schedule. This has worked easier for all parents, but I have read many comments of how that's not a good idea.
It seems to work for us, but I don't want to put our needs in front of SDs. Is this okay? Why would this be bad for her? I know 2 weeks without either parent is a long time.. Is it better to have her travel that much weekly?
Just hoping for thoughts/opinions on the matter.
I will also say that court stated once she starts school, we will need to come to a new agreement. If we can't all agree on something then they will be the ones to determine who the "full-time" parent will be. Because of this, we are buying a house with outstanding school ratings whereas, she lives in her boyfriend's parent's house near Detroit with not very good schools in the area.
We are hoping this will help our chances in getting primary custody. Who knows... Hell, with holidays coming up and us being on a different schedule than last year, I don't even know if we will see her between now and New Years.