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Just Need to Vent After Time with FSD9

KatDarling's picture

During our time with FSD9 FDH and I decided to take her to an amusement park. I suggested that we bring along a friend for FSD9 so that she would have someone to ride certain rides with and stuff. FDH vetoed the idea and said that it should just be the three of us. I was immediately worried, FSD is always on better bheavior when a friend is around.

So we get to the park and instantly I realize that I have made a mistake coming on this trip. FSD9 was absolutely impossible to please. She dismissed half of the rides as "baby rides" and dismised the other half of the rides as "too scary". There were literally two rides that she wanted to go on in the entire park. Also, it is difficult to keep straight how many times that child whined and yes CRIED. She cried when she did not want to go on rides and cried every time something practically brushed against her skin. Finally FDH decided that we would all go on the log flume. FSD threw a fit like I have never seen. She screamed and cried and carried on. She ate an ice cream and threw the trash on the ground. She pouted endlessly when her dad wouldn't let her play a certain game even though we were at an amusement park, eating snacks and food all day and had already played games. I was shocked by her behavior. I distanced myself and didn't make any remarks. Later in the day it was clear that FDH had reached his limit, he had been reprimanding FSD all day and he was fed up.

He complained to me the whole car ride back but in terms so vague that he obviously has no intention of correcting the situation. Of course, his anger turned on me, saying that I shouldn't have come and it should have been time with he and his daughter. It was clear by the way he was speaking that he was embarassed by her behavior and frustrated that he was unable to correct her behavior. However, instead of explaining to her what was and wasn't appropriate about her behavior he reprimands her in vauge terms and becomes frustrated with me.

Who is more annoying, the impossible, bratty, spoiled SD or the well meaning dad with reasonable expectations but no parenting skills or follow through? TOUGH CALL!

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novemberm's picture

I know it is not funny, but the holding onto trees comment cracked me up! I can just see it.

And yes, many SDs seem to be a pain in the butt.

purpledaisies's picture

I would have called him out and told him that he had no reason to be mad at me and he was really mad at his kids for her behavior and he better do something about it or shut up!

Every time he complains to me that would be my response either do somehting or shut up. But either way i don;t want to hear it. She is YOUR kid not mine and if she is embarrassing you then do somehting.

novemberm's picture

My boyfriend's daughter is 22 and still throws fits. Nothing is ever, or will ever be good enough for her. Sounds like your FSD is on that path. I think your FDH better start setting major boundaries now. I feel for you, I really do!

Soon-to-be-Step-Mommy's picture

Isn't it unbelievable how ungrateful these kids are?! My SD8 is the same way. We take her out to a small local amusement park...play minuature golf, ride the go-karts, play in the arcade. On the way out we ask her if she had fun..."No because I didn't get to play laser tag." These children are just plain spoiled. Everyone feels sorry for children of divorce so they raise them to be ungrateful brats because they are given everything out of "compensation" for their parents not being together. Bunch of crap.