Just Realized Everything I'll Never Get To Do
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Mr. Kate and I took FSD10 to an amusement park. I thought I was prepared, but I was wrong.
After a few hours of dropping me off to ride a coaster by myself...I felt bad for feeling bad, because...FSD10 deserves time with her dad, but theres nothing like watching all those kissy-face couples in line while you're by yourself thinking 'BF and I will never be carefree like they are.'
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Oh I agree with
Oh I agree with spunkidoolittle!!! GIVE YOURSELF MORE TIME or you'll be having those lonely questionable feelings A LOT or I do anyway.
DEFINITELY!!!!!!!! Give
DEFINITELY!!!!!!!!
Give yourself time to experience life before you give it up! There are MANY things that parents BIO or otherwise, give up in order to raise kids....
I think balance is the key to
I think balance is the key to any relationship. If you find times to let loose and be young with your BF and others to be more family/kid oriented you have the best of both worlds. That "single" life often gets old very quickly. If you can find that compromise with the right one it's can all be worth it. But balance is the key.
It's one thing to give up being young and carefree for your own children but quite another to make that sacrafice for someone elses, no matter how much you love them or the child.
It's good that you are
It's good that you are questioning now. Stepparenting is the hardest least rewardng role I've ever had. Some step parents are luckier - and you could be 1 of those.
You're wise beyond your years to be reconsidering now. Smart Young Woman!
True, however the irony of
True, however the irony of step parenting is that SPs are EXPECTED to suck it up and make sacrifices, compromise just like bio parents do, however they don't get the same return that a bio parent does. I am convinced that in order to be a SP one must have a masochistic trait.
Glynne I totally agree with
Glynne I totally agree with you, good advice.
"To add some background, this is my first relationship, and I had a lot of time yesterday to wonder if maybe I want to have a little more fun in my twenties like it seems like everyone else got to." I am 34 now and facing being a sm for the first time.
Stepkate I really wish you luck with this difficult situation. You will sacrifice a lot to be a sm and as mentioned above you need to know and accept it will most usually be a thankless job. At 20 that would be way too hard for me! You will be in my thoughts
Honestly, I HATED IT when we
Honestly, I HATED IT when we took SD to the amusement parks. It might sound silly, but I really, really, felt LEFT OUT of their own little world. I barely existed, or so I thought........
Exactly what I was thinking
Exactly what I was thinking at certain points: Why am I here?
To be honest, I don't think I'll ever go with them again.