My husband and I are in our early 40's and we have been married for 18yrs and the sons are not just mine, they're his too. The answer to your question is NO her mother (spouse's half sister)doesn't work. All she wants to do is party all the time instead of taking care of her responsibility which is not fair to anyone that has already raised their children like an adult should. So now when my husband goes to pick up his niece some Monday's (his off day)the mom doesn't do her hair and she doesn't get her dressed so he has to do her hair and buy her a new outfit and shoes each time he has her. When I was her mother's age I had our sons back to back and I knew who their father is, but this mother went out and slept with who knows who and ended up pregnant. To this day the child has NEVER seen or know who her dad is which is terrible. So she decides to keep the baby and couldn't take care of the first daughter that she had. She is now 9yrs old and her aunt is raising her. Not only that the 9yr old doesn't want ANYTHING to do with her mother. As you can tell that I am very angry about how this situation started. My husband and I moved back home in 1991. All the time that we were here not once did ANY of his sister's (3-half)call him nor come by to visit him because they were busy spending the money they received in 1992 from their mom passing away partying until it was all gone. No one saved back any of the money. They really had nothing to do with him until his mom passed away in 2005. Now they only want to associate with him becase they have on one else that will help financially and they don't consider what he has to do for his sons by putting them through college and the expense of that. I am very frustrated with this. Now that our family reunion is coming up he feels that she has to be there each time and this makes it not enjoyable because we can't conversate with the family our age for attending to a 3 1/2 year to make sure she doesn't get into things. I love my husband dearly and I don't want to divorce him but if things don't change about with this situation I will be looking for somewhere else to live and just let him have it all.
Kaileen