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why different rules apply????

lizzybean89's picture

husbands 9yr daughter our 20mo daughter 2.5 yr son all have the same rules! they have same punishments to age ratio. all live with daily. 20mo baby stands in time out .not joke. step sons 3yr and 7yr have no rules at all! boys come over 1 nite week. its complete hell even 9yr wants to leave the house. husband says she has to stay and play with brother that shoot other kids with nurf guns. brake toys books color one the walls. they are animals! even hit me flip me off. i get in trouble when i put them in timeout or take the guns away. im always the bitch then it comes to the step sons. my kids act out fordays after the boys have been over. takes me days!!!! to clean the house back up.they wisper to my husband they dont like me and want him to move out. how i hurt their feeling when i take thing away from them. im so so so sick of them im about ready to take my kids and leave him , take his ass to court for visitation of my stepdaughter. am i they only one that has odd show of favoritism!!! why is my 1yr not aloud to act out and scream when shes in a timeout without getting put in her room. but its just fine from a 7yr old!! grrrrrrrrr :jawdrop:

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lizzybean89's picture

omg hubby would flip he wont even make them pick up ten things before they leave. when they do he pays them, kelsea 9yr has chores she does everyday and she doesn't get paid cuz its teaches her responsibility. when she does more without being asked she might maybe get paid...

QueenBeau's picture

You can leave him. You won't get visitation of your stepdaughter, but that's collateral damage.

have you tried counseling?

lizzybean89's picture

im going he quite going. we live in wisconsin, im a stay at home mom and have been my step daughters primary care giver for 4 yrs. wisconsin judges would give me 10 hours contact a month min to avold emotional damages. all ready have looked into it:/

Disneyfan's picture

If they will grant you visits,will they also make you pay child support?

What do you mean you get in trouble when you get on his kids??? You're an adult. Why in the world do you allow him to treat you like a child?

lizzybean89's picture

no i wouldnt have to pay child support im her step mom its like grandparents rights. sometimes the fight get almost childish .and he points out every flaw i have makes me feel like im really a bad mom. but my kids are awesome like gifted 2.5 yr and starting to read 3 letter words not joking at all 20 mo old counts to 10 and knows her abc. husband always makes me feel retared i have a brain injury from being hit in the head by my dad. so i slur somtimes when i talk or it takes me longer to process thing, or i cant remember my zip dumb things that i really cant help...

lizzybean89's picture

no i wouldnt have to pay child support im her step mom its like grandparents rights. sometimes the fight get almost childish .and he points out every flaw i have makes me feel like im really a bad mom. but my kids are awesome like gifted 2.5 yr and starting to read 3 letter words not joking at all 20 mo old counts to 10 and knows her abc. husband always makes me feel retared i have a brain injury from being hit in the head by my dad. so i slur somtimes when i talk or it takes me longer to process thing, or i cant remember my zip dumb things that i really cant help...

lizzybean89's picture

no i wouldnt have to pay child support im her step mom its like grandparents rights. sometimes the fight get almost childish .and he points out every flaw i have makes me feel like im really a bad mom. but my kids are awesome like gifted 2.5 yr and starting to read 3 letter words not joking at all 20 mo old counts to 10 and knows her abc. husband always makes me feel retared i have a brain injury from being hit in the head by my dad. so i slur somtimes when i talk or it takes me longer to process thing, or i cant remember my zip dumb things that i really cant help...

biomomof1's picture

i have the same problem w my dh i have a ss that is 6 and we together have a son that is 2 and double standards apply with the kids and i dont go for that mess at all we have had many fights not in front of the kids about this issue but is goes no where i have also felt like it would just be better to single parent our son 2yo but i love my dh very much its just what he lets ss get away w/ and not our son and it really hurts me bc they are both his kids but i am always the bitch bc i go for the same rules apply to both kids

lizzybean89's picture

yea know the feeling fucken sucks! i have to be on anxiety meds when stepsons come over!

lizzybean89's picture

yea know the feeling fucken sucks! i have to be on anxiety meds when stepsons come over!

lizzybean89's picture

honest to god i would do single parenthood standing on one hand blindfolded lol

lizzybean89's picture

honest to god i would do single parenthood standing on one hand blindfolded lol

lizzybean89's picture

yes

Disneyfan's picture

Why do you allow your husbands to treat your SK'S like royalty, but bring the hammer down on your bios and/or mutual kids?

lizzybean89's picture

im going to try and talk to him about it when one of my friends come over tonite to see if we can avold a fight and have a talk... hoping it works it just sucks cuz im really starting to feel like i hate theses boys like hate them never want to see them again... :sick:

lizzybean89's picture

my husband ex gf the one with the boys wants him to sign off and walk away. and up till the last 2 mo hes only seen them 8 times since jun of 14. now he wants them back and all the time. i hate it but i wish he would sign off their suck bad inflorescence. im pretty religious i dont go to church but they talk about killing zombies making poions spells dead spirts and really creep stuff. they have skulls on there clothing. hell i had to put off the family pick over Mohawks!!