Good luck!!! I hope court turns out well for you and your DH! This whole thing has been a LONG journey for you both!!!

Good luck! 

Oh it's the day!  So praying for everything to FINALLY go as it should and that the judge/courts have clarity to see through all the disaster this monster has put you through.   Please universe, don't let it be 'another contempt' slap on the wrist this time.  Enough is enough...you guys have been through SO much already. 

Really hoping this goes your way....and if the world continues to be crappy and it doesn't- that your dh has the peace of mind necessary and comfort in his heart to let down the ropes and go on to live his life.  I've been thinking of you and this day.  Best of luck!!!

Will be thinking about you! Hoping for the best Xo 

for you and your DH. I hope it all goes your way!

Good luck. I hope this finally puts it all to rest!

Best of luck.  

Positive good thoughts across the internet from Florida. 

Good luck! Sending positive thoughts & good vibes your way!

Good luck. Steplife is not for the weak!

Oh yay us. We're court twins. Ours starts a couple hours from now. Sending you all the best thoughts and praying for a successful outcome that gives you peace and satisfaction!! Good luck!

Good luck!!

Good luck to you! 

Best of luck! I know you guys have been screwed over and over in this court; I hope the cycle is broken today.

Keep us posted!

Wishing you both the best outcome possible!!! 

Wishing the best for both of you. I commend you for sticking with it, I know how exhausting the process can be.  She is blatently guilty of contempt.  

I'm so sorry.

At least until July?

Asides from my opinion above, agree...sending you a gigantic virtual hug...I'm so sorry!!! For all of you! 

The best part is that SS saw him, gave him a hug and told him he loved him - now you know. This is an alienated kid, under pressure from BM, who loves his father no matter what bullshit he puts in his texts.

Hang on to that. That's the real SS and he's in there. 

I am just flabbergasted.  What does your lawyer say?!  This is totally unacceptable.  Did the lawyer tell the stupid judge that he has not be able to communicate with his child for months and that yall made a special trip for this?  I just don’t see how this happened.  I am so sorry.  What a mess. 

makes money by endless delays.  Now if the shoe had been on the other foot, they would have thrown DH into the slammer for contempt many moons ago sad to say.  There is totally a double standard.

Did he let the judge know that 1) this has been continued 3 times before

2) your husband is in the military and has to deploy

3) there is extensive travel and costs associated with this continuations

4) BM's lawyer never did what the judge asked of him from over a year ago and your DH hasn't been able to see his child coming up on a year soon.

I'm pissed for you.  I am.  Someone needs to disbar Bm's lawyer. 

I feel like maybe you should consider going to a new lawyer...this one doesn't seem to be fighting very hard for y'all.

Didn't this lawyer push for the writ but then when it came time to actually enforce it decided it wouldn't be a good idea after all???

I'm so sorry this happened, but to be honest, it's better than I expected.  I figured the judge would rule totally against your husband, like he does every single time.  A delay is marginally better than that, except that it keeps you waiting and not knowing whether to drop the rope or not.  I hope you catch a break and get a new venue and a new judge.

At a certain point you have to let things go.  Love the child enough to not be part of the tug of war that BM is trying to create.  The court system doesn't help.  We spent thousands upon thousands to no avail. 

Go live your lives.  Set an example of healthy adults living your lives.  This happened to us at exactly the same age as your SS.  My DH stayed in contact and saw him a few times a year.  When CS ended (a couple of days later, actually, it was that abrupt) suddenly all the "your father wants to kidnap you" parrotted by SS as "I am afraid you want to kidnap me" and the "My mother needs me, I am all she has" and the "I want to be with my mother" became "A boy needs his father" and "Your father has always loved you" from BM.  Literally within a couple of days of her last CS check, she asked if he could move in with us.  And then, she disappeared to go run off with men and couch surf... yet again leaving SS to deal with the side effects of her chaos and dysfunction.

So, basically, I am saying when BM is done using him for her own needs - financial, emotional, hypochondria, whatever - the real SS gets to come back.  It's horrible.  But in these cases where the courts won't listen, continuing to fight just puts the child in the middle.

I have another child in my life (distant relative) who was in a tug of war situation recently between two parents.  This child came to me when SS was present, crying.  I told her that it is not fair to put her in the middle of a tug of war between two parents and that I would speak to the parent I have a good relationship with about it.  SS got teary when we all talked about it and encouraged my distant relative to not choose sides because she can love both parents.

They aren't necessarily bad kids from the start.  But they are put in bad situations and often make bad and hurtful choices.

This story is why DH does not fight for SD15 in the courts.

I am so sorry OP. This endless loop of court dates is stressful in the simplest of cases, let alone adding delays and out of state arrangements and almost zero contact from the son. I have no words of advice or wisdom. Just sending you a big hug because this is really, really hard.

If DH is not able to attend the next court date due to work he should file a continuance so he can attend the next hearing either in person or via video conference.  I may be the lone person here but I think DH should march forward with this. BM now has a history of contempt and custodial interference on a standing order (the judges words). The order is being enforced and she needs to follow it. If she is found to be in contempt again it will p*ss the judge off. Switching judges may do no good and just put DH back at ground zero.  Continuances are unfortunately normal and a part of the judicial system.  

DH is going to be dealing with BM and court for YEARS to come since ss is only 14.  I guarantee that this will not be the last time DH is summoned for some legal/modification/child support increase issue. It would be better for him to have a toe in the game than being shut out and letting her run the show.  He should keep his lawyer and keep moving forward. It's expensive yes and it's emotionally exhausting, but this is the game she is playing and DH is part of it whether he likes it or not.  ss is an unfortunate pawn in this game and obviously loves his father.  

I personally know how slow the court system is. On my part will be over a year and 15k + of dealing with exH for a modification. Stalling, delays, stonewalling on his part and having the lawyers communicate is ridiculous and expensive. Luckily we are almost wrapped up! 

Wow. Heavy. 

I am so pissed off for you and your family, including SS. And they wonder why people lose faith in the family court system...

I am happy, however, that DH got to have that moment with SS. This gives me some hope. I think if you could get a chunk of time with SS on his own, there may be some repair done to DH and SS' relationship. I think if I was in your situation, I'd fight just a little longer and see what happens. Like someone else mentioned, you have some good evidence of her not following court orders, GAL on your side, character witnesses, etc... I really think you have a strong case. Fight just a bit longer. If it helps, put either a dollar limit on it (until $XX,XXX) or a time limit on it (by end of Dec 2019) for your own peace of mind and to perhaps give you some stamina to go for her jugular.