Last night, I have Christmas dinner with my mom and then plans to go to an Advent Service at Church after. DH was told in advance of this. But, when he realizes I am leaving for awhile, says, I need to talk to you privately. I say fine, I have to change, come up and leave my mom downstairs with BS17 cleaning up. He says he has decided that SD16 will watch one of the dogs while we are on the cruise. I start arguing rationally and he says all the lovely things! "You hate my daughter". "You are just being vengeful towards her". On and on. THis lasts about ten minutes and I leave. I pray about it at church and my feelings have not changed.

Come home and he is not speaking to me. Never finished cleaning the kitchen, left a mess for me. My mood is shot at this point. I start arguing again with him and basically say no, this is not going to happen. I don't even know this child anymore and you want me to leave this 7 pound dog with her? Besides, my other dog has gone blind recently and on his last leg and they stay in the same cage together at the kennel. Not leaving her alone. His answer is I can't have more than one reason that she can't do it. I have to have one so that he can resolve that issue.

This goes on and on for 45 minutes. I am exhausted. Nothing is accomplished, other than me saying no and he could stay home if he wants to bond with his daughter...I said everything I could think of to him. He has three lunches with her with some once a month consistency and now he wants her to watch our dog for 9 days? Not going to happen. I say I never hear anything good about her. She is working 4 days a week, who is watching the dog? Everything I could think of. Not to mention that this dog would be in his ex's house.

I am this evil bithc because I took away a bonding moment for him and his daughter. Now they would have something to talk about when he sees her. It is not my responsibility. She is not welcome here. I made it clear last night, that she has not apologized for the damage she did. Now, he feels I should get over it because she is a child and I am an adult. I am the immature one...UGH!

She is 16 and knew exactly what she was doing and continues to do. I saw her at the gym recently and there are maybe 4 people in there. Does she say hi when she had the opportunity, she just glares at me. I did not say hello either, but then, I know no matter what I say or do, I would be crucified for it.

I will be damned if she is getting this dog tomorrow. Also, really irritated with him, for completely changing my mood and ruining this vacation for me. I paid 7K for us to do this and now he has just changed my whole temperment since nothing is resolved. Lately we have been fighting and every single time, has lead back to SD and BM. Last one was the video games ratings. I lost that one. Now yesterday, he got a huge promotion and even that was diminished by SD16. And it was her idea. He at least admitted that. Seriously, if you are not married, run. This never gets easier. Even giving up SD16 to her mother, did not stop the drama. I will never be able to let it go what she did. She changed my marriage and made he and I say such evil things to each other and that can not be undone.