Well, you may recall we had planned our annual vacation with the kids over Christmas. NY and Boston this year. SD originally was supposed to go and then she got mad at her dad and put some stuff online and we said she had to apologize. Long story, read previous blogs. The afternoon before we left, she decided to apologize to her dad so she could go. I yelled at her for blowing him off and said fine she could go, but we were expecting her to be courteous and kind on the trip to the boys and no whining.

Well, four days in and she was put on a plane home....She never stopped snapchatting (which is an evil app and needs to be stopped, more on that in another blog)or tweeting or taking selfies. She barely saw the statue of liberty or Ellis island. She was insolent most of the trip. She bragged about drugs and drinking with me. She was nice, if we were spending money...But, the minute it was walking, she was all complaining. The minute our backs were turned she walked away. Lost her in Times Square. She left and went to McDonald's about a half hour before we were going to dinner, so of course she didn't eat what she ordered. Meals were 100 bucks every time.

She flipped out when we wouldn't let her go run on the treadmill in the hotel in the middle of Times Square alone. She weighs 88 pounds. Sorry, not on my watch. It was minute by minute of what she would do. Well on the last day in NY she got tired of walking through Greenwich Village. My husband and the boys were enjoying it, we even came up on Eleanor Roosevelts house. We do that on all of our trips. She knew that. Well lets say when my husband got mad at the whining and her walking off, she lost it. Screaming and yelling and trying to hit me and I hadn't said nothing, but asking her to calm down. The swear words were awful. DH who has dealt with a mom like this, reacted well. I got the boys out of the way around the corner. I said to them that she is Bi-polar and clearly this is a manic episode and we need to let your dad deal with it. She came around the corner, telling me that she was not bi-polar and I was a "" and tried to hit me. Then my kid gets in the middle of it and yelled at her, who the hell did she think she was, that I was the one paying for her to be her and she should be grateful. She tried to hit him. All the meanwhile, DH is trying to pull her back. People are passing by and commenting that she needs a smack and should they call the police for us. After that, I grabbed the boys and went back to the hotel. Leaving my screaming SD and DH in the middle of Greenwich village.

It was unreal...Now fast forward and I have to have more of these blogs in order to explain the next few days, we take the train to Boston, where she acts like nothing happened. DH asks her that night if she wants to stay. She says yes and she is sorry. I barely spoke to her other than a hug later to tell her I love her but I hate her behavior. Last thing I have said and I wish I could take it back...I kept trying for my husband but now am done.

She then had a phone call that lasted an hour and half once we were in the B&B in Boston and my sons heard the whole thing. She apparently didn't want to go to Boston and didn't want to learn and her friend who she was talking to was drunk or high told her they were having a NYE party and she should come home. Later that night she walked into our room while we were having sex, hadn't been in a room by ourselved in days. The doors had no keys just a key pad, she used the code and walked in. DH about flipped. I could care less at this point, it was like dealing with a toddler.

She told him that she was sorry, but she was homesick and wanted to not ruin our vacation but, she was having a lot of anxiety and wanted to go home. He sent her to bed and said he would discuss it in the morning. We talked and figured out she was playing us. We knew she had a better offer, the boys who heard the entire conversation with her and her friend, confirmed it that next morning. DH and her left and I took the boys to Harvard and MIT. Something my boys really wanted to see. Let's just say BM told DH she would not let her go out and DH confronted SD right before she walked on the plane. We didn't want her having a meltdown in the airport with TSA refusing her to board.

Fast forward and she has a ton of drinking vines online so we know that she went out drinking on NYE after BM assured DH that wouldn't happen. Now DH is meeting with BM tomorrow morning and is telling her he is walking away since BM won't discipline her by being a parent. BM did other things this week. Meds were not being taken and BM assured us they were. Lies and more lies. It just keeps going on. I can tell you more things, but honestly I am tired of the situation. Let's just say we know we had to take her in order to try again, but it will never happen again...DH knows she can not come back in our home unless she is in intensive therapy and on at least three pills which is what all the research says. Her behavior has to be damn near perfect for me now and that will never happen as long as BM won't cut off her phone or take away her car....I will post more later...