Bracing for the battle, name calling and hate
Sunday afternoon I wasn’t feeling great so I told DH I was going to take a quick nap before we were to meet some friends at the local pub for a Superbowl party. DH’s phone started ringing and didn’t stop – SD19 called 3 times in the course of one hour. I couldn’t help but hear parts of his conversation and knew something was up when I heard him tell her I was lying down but he’d ask when I got up. I knew if he was going to tell me about her calling it required money because he never mentions when either skid calls unless they want something.
SD19 recently put her car in a ditch and got a ticket for no proof of insurance. This was the one thing we stressed to her when she got the car from her BM’s stepdad – she was responsible for the insurance. Her court date is next week and if she provides proof of insurance, they’ll probably dismiss her ticket with a $100 reinstatement fee. If not, our state levies some pretty hefty fines ($500-$1000 with 3 month suspension of license plates). SD19 works and attends a junior college. She lives with SD23 & SD23’s husband and supposedly pays them; she’s also supposed to have chores around the house to help pay for her upkeep. SD23’s husband had this all figured out before SD19 moved in – he’d take part of her check for rent and also put a chunk in the bank for her so she wouldn’t blow it all – don’t know what happened but it didn’t work out that way. Now SD19 is asking to borrow $300 from us to pay her insurance, so she says. However, according to her F/B postings, she went on a shopping spree Saturday. She also goes and gets mani/pedi’s every week and gets her hair cut and/or dyed every other week. She smokes like a chimney and is always going out with her friends. Seems she has money for everything but her insurance and/or responsibilities. SD23’s husband is wanting to have SD19 drug tested – wonder what they’re not telling us??
When DH was telling me about it, he said he didn’t know if it would be a good idea to bail her out or not – now he’s having second thoughts. Evidently she’s been trying to get a loan from different loan companies and even pay day cash places but they all want a co-signer. She asked him to ask me if he could co-sign for her. My response was that since he was unemployed and was no longer drawing unemployment I didn’t see how he could co-sign. I don’t want him to anyway because I’m the one who would be paying it because she won’t even make the effort to pay it back. We tried to get her to take out a small loan just to establish credit when she was waitressing and making really good money – did she listen? Nope. DH did tell her that this was going to cause bad feelings especially if she didn’t pay it back.. While we were at the Superbowl party, she texted him “n e luck?” I’m guessing that meant any luck talking me into giving her the money, ummmm, NO!
I hate living like this – this stresses me out to the max, especially the dread of having to put up with hearing how he can’t do anything for his kids without a fight with me, blah, blah, blah…..