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JennyBunnyjj's picture

A few ppl are acting like that was a harsh punishment, but sometimes its required. He wasnt harmed in anyway. His behavior is completely out of hand and if i have to take away ALL of his toys I will. Today was done to show him how it makes everyone else in the house feel when he purposefully destroys our things. Lesson in life. I have literally had to yank him down a store isle to keep him from getting in trouble because I caught him stealing JUST as a store employee noticed it too. Im TRYING to keep him out of the juvenille detention center. It isnt easy and no one gives you a handbook. Its fine if you dont agree with what I chose to share. Its not easy being under 30, the mom of an autistic child, the SS from hades and a baby. Im doing the best that i can Don't judge me...im not judging you

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DeeDeeTX's picture

I didn't read your blog specifically so have no idea what you're talking about but when we put things online we open ourselves up for judgement, don't we? Isn't that kinda the point? And we have to accept the good with the bad when we do that?

JennyBunnyjj's picture

true. I come here for support and advice. Not to be judged. It someone thinks they know of a better more effective way of doing things im all ears and definitly willing to give it a try but I dont come here to be judged..I get enough of that from the real world-that's all im saying. I deleted the original post because one member was starting to irritate me. Not offering any useful advice just being dramatic

queen-B's picture

I'm sorry you're so stressed by this situation; I understand how it is to feel trapped and helpless and enraged. Your actions (cutting up your ss's stuffed toy and taking pictures of it "bleeding" to show him) tell me that you have been pushed way, way too far. This act screams desperation and anguish to me, and I really urge you to get help NOW. Continuing to take responsibility for this child right now will damage both of you irreperably.

Sometimes it is necessary to take care of yourself first, so that you are able to take care of others later. Now is one of those times you MUST take care of yourself first. Would you try to take care of your ss while you had cholera? The answer is no, because you'd be bedridden and too ill to stand, let alone cook, or drive, or anything else ordinary...and, by trying to take care of him, you'd only give him cholera too! This is no different; get a doctor's help now for yourself, so you can continue being the amazing mother, stepmom, and wife you are striving to be.

JennyBunnyjj's picture

I feel you on that one. Recently SS grnadma offered to take him for the year. I waited to see why DH would say, and he said no. Yet im stuck here ALL day and night with his problem child. It may seem like that punishment was out of control, it really wasn't. I think it actually made him see how cutting up, stealing and destroying everyone else's things hurts our feelings. I feel out of control INSIDE but pretty well held together on the outside ( sounds weird I know). I think im going to have DH reconsider. Even if its 2 mos. He's never home anyway

JennyBunnyjj's picture

finally someone who thinks the way i think lol. I just tried that because im at my witts end and no other punishments seemed to work. Kind of like a last resort, thinking outside of the box. My parents just beat my ass- case closed lol It worked too

JohnJohnSr's picture

Can anyone tell me why my blogs/topics aren't being posted??? I have a serious issue I really could use some advice.

SanAntonioSoccerMom's picture

General comment on these types of posts. Not everyone is going to agree with you, that is life, you have to learn to deal with it. You may come here "for support", that doesn't mean that people are going blow sunshine and rainbows all over the forum when they see things differently than you may.