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ITB2012's picture

DS had his HS graduation party this weekend. XH, his GF and her daughter were there. I have only met the GF twice and only one of those times have we spoken about ten words to each other. This past weekend, though, she sought me out to talk to me. She wanted to make sure I knew that over all the years (they've been together longer than me and DH---no she is not the reason for my divorce) that she really appreciates how well XH and I parent together and are a team/aligned on raising DS. And I got to tell her how much I appreciate all she's done for DS and XH, that DS really respects her and she has been a great influence. It was a very nice conversation.

Sadly, I couldn't honestly say that to BM about her and DH regarding their parenting. The skids turned out okay but not because their parenting was smooth and consistent.

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StepUltimate's picture

Well done, glad you got to connect & share the positive feedback.

Biggrin

Siemprematahari's picture

Glad that you have a decent relationship with XH and his GF. She sees how well you and XH coparent and my only wish is that many more parents are able to put their differences aside and do the same. Divorce with kids is hard enough but to make life more complicated by not being cordial and not compromising makes life that much more difficult.

I hope one day the same can be said about your H and his ex.