And no one is surprised, but someone has an excuse
Oh, I'm sorry. Not an excuse, a "reason."
DH offered to the skids to come over here to do some work and be paid for it. No surprise only YSS showed up. Why wasn't OSS here? He's busy. What, possibly, could a 19yo without a summer job and not taking summer classes be doing so that he's too busy to come here?
Hes doing BMs deck. If you remember from our last episode, OSS came to get a sander while DH was out of town. And that was TWO WEEKS ago. The kid with no job, taking no classes, couldn't get a smallish deck refinished in two weeks and cannot take four hours out of one day to come here? Yes, that's what I've been told as the "reason": OSS is busy doing her deck and it had to wait until today.
...sure...
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I'm always surprised when any of our kids or grandkids delay or refuse to do work here. We always pay, actually, we overpay. I think one reason is that DH, a former plant manager, goes into supervisory mode and none of them want to hear it.
Thinking back to how badly I needed money when young, I'm glad thst everyone is prosperous enough that they can turn down the cash. But it is still surprising to me. I have certainly worked for worse managers than DH and I wasn't overpaid for it, either.
I knew that sander wouldn't be coming back soon. Lol.
DH is a good mentor for handyman things
He really loves the handyman stuff and though his "soft touch" is detrimental in other areas, he's good with the kids. If anything, he has a tendency to do the work himself and then crab that no one came to help but not remember that at least one of us came out to ask and he said "not right now" but no one knows when "right now" is so we don't ask again. However, if he knows he's going to work with a kid, he's good about explaining and showing and guiding. Which is why it's weird that OSS won't come. DS, YSS, DSs friends, they have come to help out with stuff.
My SS20 has been "too busy"
My SS20 has been "too busy" to get his driver's license for 4 years. Those video games won't play themselves, you know!
No kidding
That's what DS was saying about it. He cannot figure out what OSS is doing all day other than video gaming. No job, barely helping out at the houses, no classes, rarely does anything in person, may run an errand. And DS said OSS is hardly responding to texts.
Some may be kind and wonder if he's depressed. I don't think so. He's always been a sedentary kid, loathe to move himself. And at the beginning of the pandemic the other kids joked that the one who'd be happiest about the situation would be OSS.
I don't care that he's not helping. What niggles at me is how he's behaving and DH excusing it.
My SS recently said he was
My SS recently said he was depressed. Sad that he doesn't have a girlfriend. Welp, not many quality girls are interested in a guy who is almost 21, 100% dependent on Mommy, with no job, no driver's license, no college. He pinned it on being overweight, which he is, but in today's society, that's common. That's not it, he's decent looking and he's friendly and polite. It's that he's got absolutely nothing going for him in life that's the problem.
DH used to offer to pay him to come over and work - he'd work for half an hour, be exhausted, sit on the couch to look at his phone, then fall asleep - because he's been up gaming all night.
My DH doesn't excuse him, he just stopped asking him to help. He's useless. DH can't make him do anything when BM excuses it.
Haha Xbox Overlord
That cracked me up Tog, and reminded me of the two years SS20 had a car that sat parked while he played his xbox, bong, and guilty Disnee Daddee from the time he was 16... until he got kicked out the Summer he graduated at 18 without a license, because I wasn't playing.
I'm sure he'll expect the pay
I'm sure he'll expect the pay anyway.