Many of you probably remember that I kicked my DH and SD (Killjoy16.5) to the curb a year ago.

1 )  DH and I are legally separated for tax purposes, but we are trying to work things out and reunite when Killjoy graduates.  One of my stipuations was that DH had to tell her why she was kicked out, and warn her that law enforcement would be involved if she were to pull a stunt like that again.

I guess I'm not that suprised at her reaction:  "I wish that day never happened."

Yeah, it's That Day's fault.  You didn't do anything wrong.  Wow...but typical.  The amazing thing here is that DH thinks that her comment indicates remorse.

2 )  Prior to disengaging, I put up with years of sullen whiny miserable complaining, entitlement, tantrums, etc.  I disengaged gradually, but when she abused my GD, I entirely lost my ability to stomach her presense.  The first year was fairly easy, since I worked third shift at the time, but sometimes had to stay at the office an hour or two late so I wouldn't have to see her before she left for school.  But then I often had to wonder what she was getting into and stealing and vandalizing when I wasn't home.  The last two years I was on first shift, and I had to hide in my room.  During the three years between The Incident and kicking her out, if at any time I found the strength to leave my room for food, Killjoy made it a point to intercept me in the house.  She'd block my movement and get in my face.  The more stalked I felt, the less I was willing to come out for any reason.  Near the end, DH literally had to tell her to leave me alone.

Le Coup de Grâce happened when DH left me alone with her all day on a Sunday of a non-Satan weekend so he could go play golf with his buddies.  Knowing the state of things, and for the umpteenth time.  When he came home I told him it was over and he needed to GTFO.

After he moved out, I told him how traumatic it was that Killjoy had stalked me in own home.  Forgetting our prior discussion and his having to tell her to leave me alone, he was surprised by this news.  I didn't expect him to mention it to her, but he did. 

The shocking part is:  she readily admitted it.  Like it was the most normal thing in the world, and she had no idea why I would have been offended by it, even though I was clearly avoiding her.  And for good reason.  Wow.  And I've owned this house for twenty years, she and DH moved in with me 9.5 years ago.  She admitted she was consciously blocking me in the hallways and kitchen of my own house.  She told DH that she was hoping she could force me to be nice to her again.  With no apolgies or insight or change in behavior.  "Consequences, what?"  She's completely mystified.

3 )  Okay so now here's the biggest one.  DH recently revealed to me that last Christmas, she had asked him when they would be moving back in.  My reaction was: "AYFKM?  Wow..." and DH said, "STOP."

After years of terrible behavior, after abusing my GD, after trapping me in my room for THREE YEARS, and after being TOLD WHY???

I mean...how would that even look??  Would all be forgiven, again with no insight or change in behavior, and I'd go back to being a doormat?  Or she'd be fine with my being confined to my bedroom of my own house?  Like...wow....

If I was DH my head would have spun around, and I would have asked her WTF is wrong with her, but I doubt he did.

When they first moved out, he'd actually had to explain to her that I'm not angry...I actually hate her....because she didn't GET IT....but then a couple months later she was like, "No, but really, when are we moving back in?"

I'd love to ask him what his reaction was but we are not allowed to discuss her.