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This kid's selfishness is mind-blowing, UGH

Ineedadoover's picture

I teach teenagers. Five days a week. I KNOW how self-absorbed they are. Teenagers don't think about the future. At least not my students. But SSstb14 takes it to the next level. He is currently calling DH's family members to reiterate what he asked for for Christmas and to make any changes. All he has talked about for MONTHS is what we can buy him. He has already placed dibs on MY vehicle for when he is old enough to drive and talks about it every single day. He is not ashamed of his constant gift-grab at all. When we went to the store tonight, he asked me if I was going to get my truck fixed, because it would be his in a few years (which I never agreed to). I couldn't stop myself from saying, "I look forward to the day when you realize that the world does not revolve around you and you stop being so selfish".

Bio-sons are younger than him and do not ask for 1/4 of the things that he asks for. When asked what he wanted for Christmas, BS7 said for me to be proud of him. DS10 said a tablet, but then said he understood that we put a lot of money into sports for him this year and he would be okay with not getting anything. SSstb13 will not stop constantly talking about what he wants. It's so annoying. I want to punch his BM for running off and not spending her time with him. The b**** messed him up and left him for me to fix. I can'd disengage because he bullies my kids and he stalks me. Calgon, take me away!

Oh wait, he just walked into my room to have a loud phone conversation about why BM named him what she did and where his first, middle, and last name came from. Mind you his is speaking to one of DH's parents. I'd think they effing know, but maybe not because neither they nor DH were there when he was born due to BM's lies. I hate the fact that this kid if my BEC, but he just does so many things to reinforce it.

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Ineedadoover's picture

At first I was about to reply, "We don't foster it!". Then I realized, you are RIGHT. For so many years he was the only child and grandchild and they fed into it. DH's mom thinks that he is the be-all end-all of children and life. She definitely feeds into it. His maternal grandparents (who are his CP) also fed into it for many years, and I believe they are truly fed up with him and his behavior, but continue to buy him in some ways because they get a lot of money from keeping him. DH only stopped feeding into it once we got together, but by then, the damage had been done.

Christmas is a big thing for kids. Who wouldn't get excited about gifts with their names on it? I get that. But the selfishness, and worse, the entitlement with my SS and your SD are sickening. I too have been dealing with this for 4 years and despite my best efforts, it's getting worse, not better.

Ineedadoover's picture

At first I was about to reply, "We don't foster it!". Then I realized, you are RIGHT. For so many years he was the only child and grandchild and they fed into it. DH's mom thinks that he is the be-all end-all of children and life. She definitely feeds into it. His maternal grandparents (who are his CP) also fed into it for many years, and I believe they are truly fed up with him and his behavior, but continue to buy him in some ways because they get a lot of money from keeping him. DH only stopped feeding into it once we got together, but by then, the damage had been done.

Christmas is a big thing for kids. Who wouldn't get excited about gifts with their names on it? I get that. But the selfishness, and worse, the entitlement with my SS and your SD are sickening. I too have been dealing with this for 4 years and despite my best efforts, it's getting worse, not better.