SD wants to date son of GREAT family friend???
Ok...so I already know I cannot control this....but...tell me what you might think, say, or do...
My DH is a well known coach in our county. We have many friends in this business. Again, so typical that the SD has made sure she noses in this partod our lives, too.
One former coach, family who my DH has worked with and coached has an adorable 20 yr old son and SD and him text. He is waaaaayyyyyyy more sophisticated and mature than her, but has expressed an interest in "hanging out" for a bit this summer.
Granted they attend college in two separate states and I know this kid WELL...I don't think he intends to strike up a relationship with SD. I am still concerned with SD's expectations.
She is currently with mom in another state working for the summer but is just chomping at the but to get back to California to "hang with soandso". This is allllllll she can talk about.
I will be so embarassed if she acts like an ass over this. The dad is a close friends of ours and our insurance agent...mom is a close friend and our dental hygenist...soooooo...way to close to us for SD to make things awkward when their son doesn't fall head over heels for her!
Any thoughts? Mayb I am just being too paranoid...but she has messed with stuff in this business world of DHs before....and I really love this family....
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hmmm, I think you are
hmmm, I think you are overreacting a bit.Teens do that all the time- the one who most likely will be embarrassed if boy doesn't return her feelings will be SD.I really don't get why you feel embarrassed.And i also don't understand so much why you feel as if the business friends of your SO are yours and can't include SD at all.After all she knows them too and she is part of his life which includes his friends - sorry , just my opinion, unless she is nasty and treating people crap , just relax and have her little crush.
Well...first off, I am not of
Well...first off, I am not of the opinion that a parent's career and livelihood has anything to do with their kids. Kids shouldn't be that involved with their parents friends or work life.
Case in point...SD went to DHs high school where he coaches. Many, MANY times she would reveal private coaching information to the players that she would hear her dad talk about with the other coaches. This really caused some problems...and a HUGE fallout last year from some really good parents. We began checking her cel regularly to make sure she stopped texting such info and we put her on a gag order. She had to learn what she heard was classified info and not for the players until such time that the COACH decided to announce it.
While SD is most certainly a part of our family, I just worry that her expectations may leave a bad taste in her mouth if they don't come to life. For example...we are not about to change dentist offices when she is embarassed to face this kids mom, etc.
Since SD went to HS with DH for 4 years...she embedded herself in her dad's team...and, as was expected had many crushes on many players. However, not ONE player ever asked her out...which was sad to watch. The result was that we have not one high school dance picture of this girl with a boy. AND...she continously blames DH for the boys being scared of her...how is that right? She was never asked to be that involved...she wanted to and we explained that the guys wouldn't want much to do with her out of respect and fear of their coach...her dad...and she never took our advice to seek dates outside the program.
DH highly regrets allowing his kids involvement...that's why I worry...