How do we transition?
SD19 finished her first year of college. She was sent to her mom's out of state to work for the summer because she becomes a "daddy's girl" here and just can never seem to find a job.
OK...so since this kid is almost 20...and will be home for a couple weeks...I am wondering how to transition this visit and all future home from college visits.
Does a child who now considers themself an "adult" (that's funny because she is totally dependent on us) just automatically get included in all of our plans?
If we are taking the younger kids somewhere and she is at our house, does she have to be included? I mean things like movies, dinner out, outings with our friends? She wants to hang out with friends for the short time home and I am NOT curtailing our vacation time for her and planning around her friend outings.
Not that I am excluding her...but at what age did any of you start to have your steps and bios kinda start doing their own thing? Does she have to come along with us everywhere like she did as a younger minor child? (mind you...we will all be at a beach house for a week...so we are not dumping on her and taking off)
This kid will sometimes NOT go see friends because she knows we are going somewhere and wants a free meal, or whatever...
So, do we treat her as a guest in our home since she is a 19 yr old home for 2 weeks or is she one of the kids again with chores and duties who answers to us? Your advice and insight would be helpful...