BM legitimately gets mad at SD for....
Seeing new movies without her. Yep, you read that right. We couldn't see The Grinch tonight because SD was afraid to see it with DH and me because MOTY, the woman who gives her daughter the silent treatment constantly, has made SD feel bad for it in the past. Now when SD knows BM must be the first to see a certain movie with SD, she won't watch it with us or keeps it from her mom. She has even asked DH to not tell BM that we saw a certain movie so that BM doesn't get upset with her.
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It's sad how kids figure this
It's sad how kids figure this out. We had BM go off on us the first time we took the kids because heaven forbid it was little ones first movie. She 4 years to take him first and we didn't even know.
We do our best to make sure the kids never feel like they can't tell us something about their mom's. I kills me to hear the little one say he doesn't tell mom something because she won't like it. They are so aware of that sort of stuff even if the parents don't directly say or act on it.
BM here definitely says it
BM here definitely says it but isn't it sad that skids would rather not do something with dad because mom will give her a guilt trip for it?
BioHo is the same way. When
BioHo is the same way. When 'Ho wants to see a movie, all of her kids must go, too.
In Our Case
the Girhippo and Battleaxe Gallactica would make sure to take skids to the latest popular movies first before we could. Even if that meant yanking them out of school the day of Chef's visitation pickup so as to spoil our plans to take them.
It was Gir's GUBM BFF duty to make sure her house was the "fun" house.
That is just plain crazy.
That is just plain crazy.
BM used to do this to skid
BM used to do this to skid when she was 5/6/7 years old. We’d ask her if she wanted to go see something and she’d almost always reply with “Mommy said SHE was going to take me to see it this weekend.”
It didn’t stop us from taking her. DH would usually reply that I guess skid would be seeing it twice then.
SD is quite the puppet with BM’s hand up her bum, huh?
Yes, she is. I appreciate
Yes, she is. I appreciate that SD is honest with us but it's just plain sad how she is more afraid of BM's petty feelings. No kid should have to feel that way.
So just what does BM expect
So just what does BM expect the kid to do? Grinch has been out for a while now. My five year old nephew has been three weekends in a row to see it.
How can BM be angry over something the kid has little control over? Sure, I can see BM immaturely being mad at Dad for beating BM to the initial event (grow up BM, be glad the kid went and enjoyed herself). But why the kid? What is kid suppose to do? Tell her Dad 'h*ll no, and if you try to take me you'll have to bodily drag me into the car and then the theater with me yelling and kicking' ?
It's a movie. One that can be seen multiple times. Many people purchase the movie when it gets released on blu-ray or whatever. And they plan to get it out and watch it. Several more times over.
Neither parent 'owns' rights to first dibs on these types of things.
Which makes me laugh when I read other blogs/forum postings over the years here where a SP comes on venting about BM or Dad and which one should have to purchase school PE shoes. I can't help but notice something like necessary PE shoes are 'have to', but things like a movie are 'get to' . lol. Just an observation and nothing to do with what you said or your situation.
I can't remember what the
I can't remember what the movie was but this happened last year, too. SD said we couldn't take her to see a certain movie because BM had dibs and would get mad at her if we took her. Well another month passed and BM still hadn't taken SD so we did. It is truly pathetic that some divorced/ separated parents can't let their kids enjoy memories with the other parent because they're more worried about protecting their own feelings.