Round Two is always worse
So I was married to this AHole with two wonderful young boys. I left his cheating butt. Fast forward two years. I met a great man who is just perfect. The only downside is that he has this little girl who is exactly like the SDs I would see everyone talking about on here. She's bratty, so jealous that she cannot stand for he and I to even hold hands or cuddle or kiss she has to have him stop and do whatever we were doing and do it with her. Pisses me off so badly. Omg.
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The problem in the first
The problem in the first relationship was the man (cheater). The problem in the 2nd relationship is also the man. He allows his child to behave this way. He may be a perfect boyfriend, but he's a worthless dad. The first one was a perfect dad, but worthless boyfriend.
That's my dream life as well
That's my dream life as well
Why aren't you mad at your
Why aren't you mad at your BF? The reason she acts like that is because he has allowed it and continues to allow it, otherwise she would know better.
He has not made it clear that he is the adult, she is the child, and he calls the shots, not her. She does not see him as an authority figure.
I don't know I guess I feel
I don't know I guess I feel like a jerk because she is only two and a half and when I brought it up yesterday he said it and I was like well yeah but I had my other stepson down with the manners at that age. So I just kind if felt like a bully saying it. Idk how to say it without seeming like I'm trying to over parent his child or act like he isn't a good dad.
Also thought I should add
Also thought I should add that he has her 4 days and BM has her 3 days a week.
He should start trying to fix
He should start trying to fix her now that she is young enough to change. Keep in mind at two they are jealous in general whether it be people or toys or whatever. Its in the age. When SS4 was two (my DH also has him majority of the time) we would do a her and mine thing. I would teach him which things were to be shared and which things were his alone that he didn't have to share if he didn't want to. Obviously people are to be shared but have you tried giving her "Daddy and Her" time? To this day DH and SS have Friday set aside for them to go do something fun just the two of them. He helps him leave to go with BM in a good mood. I remember in a parenting class that I took that said children under three do not know how to share and will not even intermingle or play with other children until after they are three to almost four years old. They will love playing beside or next to their friends but they will not interact or "play" together. I think if you get her to focus on "daddy and me" time as her time with dad then all the other times you can remind her the rest of the time she has to share. She will grow out of it if he works on it now. He needs to put up those boundaries now.
Here's some lines for your SO
Here's some lines for your SO to practice. "No, Honey, I'm kissing Herewego now, let go of my leg." "You're my DD, Herwego is my girlfriend. Those two things are different." "Honey, be quiet, I'm having an adult conversation." Jeez it's not that hard. Please don't blame the kid.
Thank you both you're right.
Thank you both you're right. I'm going to try next time she's here(this Friday)
I thought you were talking
I thought you were talking about a school aged kid. This baby is 2. She's doing what 2 year olds do. 2 year olds don't share very well, they are self centered little people.
Yeah, normal for a two year
Yeah, normal for a two year old (I didn't realize she was so young) but now is the time for him to start teaching her. He just needs to be gentle but consistent. She'll get it, if he's consistent. Otherwise, she will continue to push the envelope and it will become a problem.