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Do I REALLY want this as my life..?

HereWeGoAgainRoundTwo's picture

I am 24, a mother of a sweet one year old girl, am divorced from a terrible father of two(neither child mine and my daughter from a man I was dating for the majority of 2014). I have been dating my boyfriend since early November and I really like him. We are complete opposites on most topics, which never really bothers me it's mostly just annoying because his traits that make him opposite do not annoy me like mine do to him. He's an army vet, and I'm a free spirited artist. His daughter is over two and a half and oh my gosh I have never met such a brat. Well, only one other child has ever been worse than her. She's gotten a little better but not really. I still want to claw my eyes out most of the time she's around. And I hate that I feel that way about a child but her behavior and attitude..just terrible. She's a F-ing crybaby for attention any time her dad and I are kissing, laying on the couch, holding hands, or even trying to have a damn conversation!! She will literally fry to over talk me and then squeal and cry incessantly. And her dad just coddles her. He has her 4 out of 7 days per week. There is more to add but honestly writing this has taken a lot of my patience already lol

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oneoffour's picture

Walk away. He isn't the one for you.
You are polar opposites. You don't understand that his very young daughter is jealous of you taking time away from her Daddy. She isn't even 3 and you are expecting school age behaviour from her. When children are little they do not form friendships until they are closer to school age. The only world that matter is their parents world/s. And not only are you intruding in his daughters world. You bring along your own daughter to meld into this mix.

Being a single parent is a double edged sword. Do you expose your child to multiple romantic partners so they learn that it is OK for adults to be physically friendly with each other and not get jealous? Or do you wait for a real long time partner and the child/ren just have you all to themselves for an extended period of time so when you do find someone special they freak out because they are no longer the centre of their parents life?

And then there are your traits that annoy the crap out of him. Sadly this relationship seems doomed. Ease out of his life now before your daughter becomes too attached to him. This isn't just about you and him at this stage in your lives. You also have 2 little girls to consider.

Disneyfan's picture

LOLOLOL

It's possible for a man(and a woman)to not only find their SO annoying but actually dislike them as a person. Staying in a relationship doesn't mean the person you are with doesn't annoy the hell out of you. This guy could be hanging on to the OP until he finds someone else.

Really, they've only been together for 4 months. This relationship may be over by summer.

Disneyfan's picture

This time next year your daughter will be acting just like his daughter. That's what 2 year olds do. It's in the job description.

You just started dating this guy in November. I find it amazing that he even as his kid around you this soon.

still learning's picture

I hope you've got iron clad birth control!

I agree with all of the sage advice above. Take it from someone who's been in a rebound marriage after a nasty divorce and got another baby as a souvenir...slow down. You don't need more complication in your life.

fuckitall's picture

Good lord... just shaking my head....
You have a child with a man, marry and divorce another man, enter a relationship with another man. In two years???
I don't really care about you or your situation, based on those facts alone... but you need to back away from the single dads, you are not stepmom material luv. How dare you speak about an innovpcent two year old like that, she's a crybaby?? Oh guess what, she's a baby!!! Dumbass