She steals she lies and he defends her!
Hi I don't know where to start, but my life is so bad at the min.
I have 2 children of my own with my partner of 7years and his 2 step children, his stepson is fine, lovely little boy polite,caring lovely natured gets on great with my 2 even tho there a lot younger.
Then I have this stepdaughter who's 13!!! Since I've been with him is all she's ever done is lie, she dosnt care who gets the blame with these lies as long as it's not her!!! I've always got on really well with her but deep down I've never liked her because of the lies, I've had so many talks with her over the lying situation because it really bugs me. In the last 3 years tho her lies have been accompanied by stealing. But this stealing situation has only become aware to me & her dad in the last 12m. She moved in with us at 11 and about 6m before she moved in me & her had this amazing relationship because her lies had stopped her slyness had stopped so me & her became very close. Then she moved in & I was so happy about this (because at the time the lies had stopped I knew nothing about stealing situation previous tho) after about 4months the lies started again and one day she lied that could of caused my son to have the blame but it was only that her dad was 100% that she was lying he didn't. And she finally admitted she was lying. Then I backed off from her & said to my partner I'm not going threw all this again I've put up with her lies for years! I then started to hate her because these lies became more frequent & money started going missing out of my change box (from under the bed) , then one day I was in her room cleaning and I found one of lipsticks (this was a £25 lipstick but it could of been a £1 for all I care) so I rang her dad who was at work & I was fuming because this had come out of my draw in my bedroom. She then text me saying her friends coming home for t'. I replied & said she's not cancel it there's things that need to be discussed. It then all kicked off & she went to her nans. This atmosphere went on for months she never once apologised so I ONE day text her because it was upsetting her dad and said can I pick u up from school & take u for t and a chat to sort this out. She replied not tonight I'm getting my nails done. I was furious. I said we'll seems as u have £30 to get ur nails done don't u think the morally right thing to do is to leave you're nails and pay me the £25 for what u took from me?! (I thought this was reasnable) her reply was it's not my money it's nans. So I txt back & said this is why we will never get on you have no morals or feel no guilt over you're actions. She eventually moved back home about 6m ago now & ive not really spoken to her since. She still comes at weekends to see her dad along with her brother but I have had nothing to do with her. Her dads gone on to me to make an effort I try but because I have so much hate over her stealing my money and lipstick it's never really worked because when she took this and had to admit it she never got punished she ran to her nans and made out everything was 10x worse.
We recently found out she's been shoplifting, stealing make up clothes shoes etc she's been caught by her mum & made to return it she's been caught stealing from her mums home, her mum has had phone calls from friends parents saying things have gone missing after she's been over for t' so her stealing is out of control.
I've worked a lot of Saturdays lately whilst she's been there and over the last few weeks I've noticed a few of my make up bits & creams dissapered but only 1 by 1 and I've not thought much of it as I've always been in a rush and these are not items I use everyday so just put it down to my 2 chucking them to the back of the wardrobe. (The wardrobe is where all my stuff is) I've not suspected her because she was told last year she's not to enter our bedroom no more. Then about a month ago 1 item I use daily dissapered when she was there. That same weekend she came into my room & stole my deodrant out of my wardrobe she had to admit to this as she was caught red handed (my view on this was she should of been punished as her stealing is ongoing & no matter how little the item stealing is stealing). So she's been confronted about the make up & lied me and my partner searched and found nothing. I then remembered all the other stuff I've not been able to find. I've looked everywhere & we've questioned the other kids aswel but they wouldn't steal & we both know that. There's £140 worth of MY stuff gone. Her mums appolagise her dads paid me back the money but they can't find any of this stuff. Then my friends daughter who also is her friends said she'd seen a age replenishing item in her bag. I've basically gone mad as there's no punishment been set out. My partner and I have split up over it because I don't want her in the house. She came recently smug as anything and when I confronted her she said dunno wat ur on about I told her exactly what I thought of her and asked if she's not ashamed of herself she was Vickey n sat there & said nope! My blood was boiling. I then found messages to her freind saying finally dads split up with her he's shouted in her face I'm dying to laugh it's so funny. I've sent these messages to my partner showing him how horrid she is he's agreed it's wrong but that's it. I'm out of the family home my life is a mess I love my partner so so much but I cannot stand to live in a home with a theif & a liar. Sorry this is so long.