Sometimes I want to ask DH "When will YOU figure it out??"
So my SS has sports pictures today. I fill out the order form for what DH and I want. And then...the fun starts....
DH texts BM to tell her that OSS has sports pictures before practice today (okay, I'll give him some leeway on that because the pics were originally scheduled for over Christmas break and OSS wasn't going to be there for them since we'd be out of town. BM had dropped off a check asking to have pics ordered for her when we explained OSS wouldn't be there). Now...I want nothing to do with BitchMonster. NOTHING. She has caused nothing but mayhem and doesn't know how to keep her nose out of our business. Aside from other times she has expected my DH to finance her and the things she wants (orders pics, doesn't pay for them. Signs the kids up for stuff, doesn't pay registration, bill gets sent to us. Picks up things on credit at the sports store or the pharmacy and then we find out we have a bill, the list goes on and on), most recently she had a medical bill in collections that she stated my DH was the guarantor for...he was not. Because she never paid the bill with the hospital, they sent it to collections. We found out about it while applying for a loan for a toy and the bank overlooked it and we made calls to get it removed and informed her she needed to take care of it. It has been a topic in court twice, most recently she told the judge it was taken care of (we had it brought to our attention two weeks before court that it had not when we refinanced our home). Well it STILL wasn't taken care of. DH and I found the perfect home for our large family, and when we went to get the mortgage, it will be a second mortgage, the collections bill was STILL THERE ATTACHED TO MY DH!!! Needless to say because it was a second mortgage, the bill needed to be taken care of. I paid it, so we could get our mortgage, had DH tell BM she needs to pay us the money ASAP or I will take her to court for it, since I paid it with MY card from MY account with MY voice on the recording of the collections agreement.
Sooooo...DH texts BM "Did you want pictures of SS?"
BM: Yes I want a 5x7.
DH: Okay, you can drop a check off and pay us for that med bill at the same time.
BM: I can give you some of it with my next payday. And the rest when I get my tax refund.
No money showed up for pictures. I wrote my check for the pics, DH says "Don't forget BM wanted a 5x7"
Hanging: Yes I know she did. Did she drop of a check or give you the money for the picture?
DH: No not yet. I'll text her. It's only $7.00 right?
DH proceeds to text BM...Were you going to drop $$ off for the pictures?
BM: I'll drop it at the rink.
DH to me: she's going to bring it to the rink.
Hanging: ReallY? Well, YOU won't be at the rink, I won't be at the rink, therefore she can fill out her own form. This prompts an eyeroll from DH.
Hanging again: Yes it is $7, and no it's not a lot of money at all, HOWEVER WE will NOT pay ONE SINGLE CENT for anything for that bitch. PERIOD. She wants the pic, she either drops money off on her way to work this morning or she can fill out a second form at the rink and pay it then. Not doing it. (I then proceed to LICK the envelope and SEAL that bitch up...guess she fills out her own form and the discussion is now OVER)
And the money she owes...it's like $67. Nothing major, but again...NOT OUR responsibility. Sad part was that because the mortgage for the new house is a SECOND mortgage the loan officer was not able to overlook something like med bills, so it had to be taken care of in order to have no issues with the prequalifying of the mortgage amount. And no, $67 will not change our lives in any way...but again....I AM NOT FINANCING OR ASSISTING THAT PSYCHOTIC BITCH WITH ONE RED CENT OF MONEY FROM OUR FAMILY.
When will DH realize that she isn't going to follow through. When will he StOP thinking well we can front it and collect later? When will he realize that it's not at all about the piddly amount of money, it's about the whole principal of it. Sigh
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I'm so glad we're done with
I'm so glad we're done with that. To think of all the times BM stiffed on paying for things (like kids' EC's) because she KNEW DH would pay it just so the SK's wouldn't be disappointed. And we're talking hundreds and hundreds of dollars (hockey is expensive!). And if there was ever a team fundraiser or refunds, you can bet SK's portion was credited to HER.
I agree with you wholeheartedly that it is NOT your responsibility to play loanshark.
We have FOUR kids that play
We have FOUR kids that play hockey. All on our dime. WHY? Because the bitch won't pony up a penny. For anything. Always crying poverty but has plenty to be out in the bar with her just as lazy bf who doesn't have a job. Like seriously so bad that skid will be with HER on her time, and she won't pay the $5 for their skates to get sharpened.
Hockey is VERY expensive. Hockey assoc got a hefty check from DH and I this year (2 of his play, 2 of mine although my ex does pay half of registration...had that written up in the divorce) then add equipment, travel costs, etc.
Yes, we did the skate
Yes, we did the skate sharpening thing too -- had a prepaid sharpening card on file at the pro shop, then found out BM's DH was using it!!!! Asshole.
Oh, and HAIRCUTS... she would NOT take them to get their hair cut. "Couldn't afford it" whatever.
At one point in time we also had 4 kids playing hockey, his 2 and my 2. And yes, we paid for ALL of them. One of mine and one of his were both goalies!
Oh my! We are like twins!! My
Oh my! We are like twins!! My YSS is a goalie. My BS has now decided to become a goalie. My daughter plays wing as does my OSS.
The skate sharpening thing is hilarious, but pathetic at the same time.
I spend my winters being a hockey mom and spending more time in a rink and on the road than anything...but BM and BF try to play off parents of the year and after this many years have not figured out that the rest of the parents are perfectly capable of seeing who is really responsible. There intermittent appearances at games draw more "Oh look who decided to come" from the other parents than "Oh they are so supportive of their kids". LOL
Let me get this straight? BM
Let me get this straight? BM owes your DH 67.00 for med bill and 7.00 for picture and she can only "give you some of it with my next payday. And the rest when I get my tax refund."???
Geesh! When I was first reading I thought the med bill was a couple hundred bucks or something and the pictures were 40-50 bucks.. but come on! $75.00 and she's gotta wait for her tax refund?? But wait do I dare take a wild guess as to her state of affairs? Gets her nails done, smokes cigarettes, has new clothes weekly, goes out to dinner 4 times a week etc? How many out of 4 did I get right?
Well, you're close. Except
Well, you're close. Except she's a mess of a woman (if that's what you want to call her) that has no pride in her personal self. Stringy, greasy hair that she washes maybe once a week. Usually smells like a barn since she lives with her bf who lives in a house on his family's farm. Wears camo...ALL THE TIME but has never hunted a day in her life. She does however (as does bf) smoke cigarettes, and instead of dinner out, they spend that time out drinking in the bar. So yeah you were close.
And right? $67 and $7. Like I said, I realize it's not a lot of money, it's just the principle of it.
Don't blame you at all
Don't blame you at all either...
Once BM was short on the mortgage payment for HER house, so she told the bank to transfer money out of DH's account (years after the divorce)
THEY DID! 1500.00...
And when we texted her "That is fraud! What did you do!"
She replied "the bank didn't seem to mind"
Hang in there
I gotta ask... how did this
I gotta ask... how did this story turn out?
**please say jail time, please say jail time**
Yeah, I gotta know how this
Yeah, I gotta know how this story ended too.
Yeah, I gotta know how this
Yeah, I gotta know how this story ended too.
ME TOO!! Please tell us how
ME TOO!! Please tell us how it ended??!!
Ask him when he became a
Ask him when he became a banker and where he is hiding all his money? Because you aren't floating loans - especially to psychos and MOST especially to people who have a history of not paying their own BILLS!
I don't blame you. I hate
I don't blame you. I hate any of my money going to support a fully capable grown ass woman. It makes me sick. :sick:
oh I so agree with you my BM
oh I so agree with you my BM is the same way well can I get some pictures yeah you can pay and fill out forms just like I did to get them here's the site.... my HD is always well did you get BM pics NOPE... I have tried being the nice person and I never got a thank you for it so im totally over that .... MY BM only wants to Be mom when its convenient or looks good on her like muffins with mom at school or something in that nature show up at games.... reminder my ss is only 6 woohoo only 12 more years to go... oh wait no the rest of my life graduations, weddings, grandkids y do BM have to be so crazy and I think all DH overlook BM actions yyyyyy