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It must be the moon...now BM starts up!

hangingbyathread6's picture

So as a little back history, my DH and I have FOUR kids that play hockey. His two sons and my daughter and son. Now during the four years we have been together, BM has not taken either skid to a hockey game that is further than 15 miles from our town. YSS and BD played travel hockey for two of these years and had many, MANY out of town trips that DH and I took them on and footed the whole bill. OSS played on a house league team but has had to be out of town for weekends many times also, including this year he plays for the JV team which is parent funded, not school funded. On top of the fact that DH pays the entire registration and cost of equipment (right down to skate sharpening) for both boys. BM does not contribute a dime, but waxes in and on of how she's a "hockey mom" and so proud of her boys, etc etc. typical MOTY year bullshit.

Okay so down to her latest stunt. As I blogged before DH and I had to pay a medical bill that she put in DH's name three years ago in order to get the second mortgage we were looking for and a lower interest rate because it was the only thing on his credit report. And we informed her she now owes us the amount paid (it was court ordered she was to have it taken care of a long time ago). Well, this weekend YSS and BD are out of town for the weekend for a district hockey tournament trying to make the State Finals. DH and I are taking them, two nights in a hotel, you get the drift. OSS has two games to play in a town five hours away. The team fundraiser and was able to get a charter bus to drive them to XYZ town. It's ine night in a hotel, which costs about $90 with tax. So free ride there, just a hotel and meal expenses. It is our weekend to have the kids. Since the younger two are in a tourney that is important and DH is there coach we are both going and could have sent OSS on the bus and he could have stayed with a friend of ours and his kid. This parent is leaving after the game on Saturday to drive to ABC town to watch the districts, as his youngest boy is on that team as well. BM overheard the parents asking me if I was taking OSS to XYZ town in the bus and I said no I was going with the younger ones. BM decided she wanted to play involved mom and said she is going to go.

Yesterday she sent my DH a text. She still owes us $45 for the med bill...and again I will repeat its not the money it's the principal.
BM: I don't owe you any more. I'm paying for a hotel room for OSS and I on your weekend. Unless you want to pay for half of the room
DH: are you out of your mind? You owe us for the med bill. You don't even have to go, you chose to go. On top of the fact that how many of YOUR weekends have hanging and I funded because you didnt take either of the boys on hockey trips? Do you really want to start this game? Because OSS has a tournament in MNO town next weekend. Two nights in a hotel and no free ride....you have to drive yourself.
BM: I know that
DH: well than good, you have it taken care of I will assume. OSS can stay with the family we had already arranged with and you don't need to go this weekend. Just be prepared that from now on, any hockey games for either of the boys that fall on your weekend will now be entirely your responsibility. As you have requested.

Honestly, it was comical. I laughed my ass off. She has gone right over the deep edge. To send a message that she no longer owes us for her med bill because she is paying for a hotel room for her and OSS to stay in after the THOUSANDS of dollars we have spent for both the boys on her weekends. Hotels, meals, travel expenses. The balls on that woman to even say something like that is unreal.

It has to be the tide of the moon or something. Between the email from the ex gf to this...I think I will be having wine this weekend...lots and lots of wine.

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hangingbyathread6's picture

Omg. Yah, sorry your dad isn't your dad, I was a lying skank and was in a situation where I could pick who I said was your dad. I'm telling you so you can see just how great I am!

Sometimes I have to wonder how dumb can people be??

hangingbyathread6's picture

It's not that she doesn't do the travel and DH and I do. We love to watch the kids play. It's what we do. The part that was cracking me up was that she has the nerve to say, I don't owe you any more because I'm paying for a hotel room for me and OSS on your weekend. After all we have done. It's just comical. Like how dumb are you? Really? Her excuse that she doesn't ale them is her car isn't reliable enough (and DH won't help her fix it so the kids can be safe! That bastard!lol) and that she can't afford it. Whatever. We are happy to take them. We are making lots of memories and enjoying it. It's just dint actually say I don't owe you any more because I'm paying for a hotel room on your weekend unless you want to pay for half of it.

B22S22's picture

When my SS did travel hockey, 99% of the time DH took him, paid for the hotel room, food (for SS and SS's brother), etc. I think there were three times BM had said she'd take him to out of town games. Each and every time, she'd call DH at like midnight or 1am on Friday night (with games being 2-3 hours away starting Saturday morning) with some lame excuse for why she COULDN'T take him. And instead of just giving DH her hotel reservation, she'd cancel hers and let DH be on his own.

I was soooooo glad when those days were over.

robin333's picture

Of course she thinks like that. It's always take, take and take. Never any consideration of what's been given already that is above reasonable or agreed or ordered. Your DH will always owe her because she is the mother of his child. :jawdrop:

There is no logic to her thinking. Don't try to enter her thinking process. It's a dark, lonely place.