I'll be violating the court order...here's that psycho, bitter BM part of me coming out!
Well exH is pushing my hand in the "the kids shouldn't be in that environment and at your home when you aren't there" situation we have going on (see previous blogs).
Yesterday afternoon he said "Girlfriend will be there! They will stay at my house" and sped off while I was saying that isn't good enough. So I tried to call him. He didn't pick up. I left a voicemail stating we really need to discuss this like adults. That although his girlfriend will be there, she herself admitted to me in text message that she has no control over that child and she has given up and is waiting for her to age out. That her discipline for being underage and smoking marijuana in the house and when our kids would be there was to 'rip her a new one for being so stupid' and that was not enough of a solution in my eyes. That if he did not contact me by the evening I would be calling the FOC office and doing what I need to do, even if that means getting a temporary order saying the kids don't go there until we get in front of a judge. He never called.
So I called FOC and spoke to our worker this morning. Explained that he was not being agreeable regarding the situation as I had expected would happen. She said she was sorry to hear that, she thought he would do the right thing. That since it is so close to the weekend and we can only see a judge from another county my options were limited. She said send him an email, cc it to me stating the entire situation and your feelings about it, and the proposed solution. That you aren't keeping him from the kids if he is there but if he is not it is reasonable to have them come home. If he doesn't oblige, she herself told me to have the older kids call me when he leaves for work, to go and pick them up and violate the court order. He would have to call the police to enforce it, he would be at work anyway so they most likely won't take the kids, that he could file a complaint stating I'm violating the custody order and then we would be in front of a judge to state my reasons why. That if over the course of the weekend this does occur to give the police her name and they have her number and she will talk to them also. That this will work temporarily until I get a motion filed and get in front of the judge.
So that's exactly what I am going to do. I sent the email. Waiting for his response. And if not I will violate the order. The very worst they would do to me once in front of a judge is jail time or a fine, however I would get to state the reasons why I withheld visitation and she feels no judge would disagree with me. She also stated that her office and the court system are well acquainted with the girlfriend and delinquent daughter.
So...guess it means it's going to be a drama filled weekend, unless he steps up and does the right thing and considers the best interest of his children.