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B*ver and the room rearrangment and other updates

halo1998's picture

Submitted by halo1998 on Thu, 10/29/2020 - 9:53am

Beaver news...

1.  CPS still hasn't met with Beaver.  WTF...DH called and left a message for the case worker.  Sigh...

2.  Beavers new mantra for everything is....SD ask your father....he is the PERRRFFFEEECCCT parent.

   This includes the use of femine products.  SD asked her mother to get and show her how a tampon works.  Beaver told her to ask DH since he is the PERRRRFFEEECT parent.  SD in turn asked me.  Told her we would get some this weekend and either I or DD would show her how the work.  I also told SD...Geez..how petty and how about Beaver just be her mother for 30 seconds.

Also included was getting SD a Halloween costume.  SD had told us she didn't want one so we didnt' get one. However, now SD wants to go out with her girlfriends so she asked Beaver and Mr. Beaver SR if one of them could take her since she is at Beaver's during the evenings.  Answer to that was....ASK DH..HE IS THE PERRRRRFEEEECT PARENT.  OK...DH had some time during the day he wasn't in a meeting so he took SD and she got her costume.  ***plllleeeettt*...take that Beaver.

3.  Beaver and the GWR have taken to taunting SD with...

Gee SD maybe we should throw something at you so your FAAAATTHTHTHHHHER can call CPS and then laughing.

Yikes..really..please do so that yes we can CALL AGAIN.

4.  This one is just freaking funny.  SD has a very very small room at Beaver's.  SD rearranged her room and Beaver told her she needs to undo it because....Beaver can't fit in there now.  She can't fit between the bed and the dresser.  (Beaver really is that big).  Sd told her no..its her room and if she can't fit then just get out.  (Now..DH and both told SD that is not really an appropriate answer but can't really fault her too much.)  In private DH and laughed our butts off....cause she legit is too big to fit.

BTW..DH isn't a perfect parent...he is just a parent..unlike Beaver who shouldn't have been allowed to breed.

 

 

 

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Picardy III's picture

Submitted by Picardy III on Thu, 10/29/2020 - 9:58am

Joking about throwing things at SD so that your DH calls CPS again?!

That's abusive, sadistic bullying.

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Submitted by tog redux on Thu, 10/29/2020 - 10:24am

This is part of the alienation. Some kids would do anything to make their mother stop behaving this way, including cutting out their own father. It's just self-preservation, at some point.  Most likely SD will not tell anyone again if Beaver hits and bites her.

halo1998's picture

Submitted by halo1998 on Thu, 10/29/2020 - 10:36am

I agree at some point SD will just go along to get along.  It so sad to watch someones life be destroyed in front of your eyes.

Picardy III's picture

Submitted by Picardy III on Thu, 10/29/2020 - 10:44am

Wise not to be too optimistic, but...I don't know. When her miserable, abusive brother is also at the Beaver Dam bullying her (and has no path to launching, probably)? 
I don't think it's out of the question that SD could stand firm and want custody changed.

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Submitted by tog redux on Thu, 10/29/2020 - 1:03pm

Then Beaver will ramp up the abuse for the entire time that it's in court, and make her life a living hell. PLUS, she will offer her every possible form of bribery she can even imagine - you can have a new computer, stay up as late as you want, friends over every weekend, lots of money ...  it's not always just about abuse - it's about finding what teenager will want.

I'd be shocked if she stood up to that. AND, she knows Beaver would cut her out of her life entirely if she "betrayed" her by saying she wanted to live with DH.

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Submitted by halo1998 on Thu, 10/29/2020 - 1:33pm

and thus DH's valid belief that after awhile SD will go by of GWR and nope out of here as well.

SMH......sad for DH and sad for both skids who will live a life of hand to mouth living and mostly likely perpetuate the cycle.

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Submitted by tog redux on Thu, 10/29/2020 - 1:58pm

It's a crappy, no-win situation when your ex is like Beaver.  They destroy their kids no matter what you do. My SS20 is back in our lives, but not even DH finds him likeable.

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Submitted by tog redux on Thu, 10/29/2020 - 1:02pm

Right - because she knows well that Beaver would completely cut her off, and not hesitate to do it. It's hard to think about losing your  mom that way, even if she's a crappy one. And kids who are abused have a trauma bond - they try harder to make their parent attach to them.

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Submitted by mommadukes2015 on Fri, 10/30/2020 - 12:02pm

That poor kid. Being bullied by her own mother. I don't think the room change was a mistake. Probably so she has someplace safe to go to avoid Beaver beatings. That's so sad. 
 

good on you for helping with the tampons slams DH getting the costume handled. And we can add your CPS to eff off Friday for not following up timely while this kid is subjected to this sh*t. 
 

((((Hugs))))