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Last thoughts for the work day...

h7's picture

Thanks again for all the help you guys have given me this week. I think I've got my head straight, but let's just see how long that lasts.

I was wondering if anyone has seen that movie "The Stepmother" (or something like that) with Julia Roberts. I saw it a long time ago & I was wondering if you guys thought it was pretty accurate.

Anyhoo, I hope everyone has a good weekend. Take care,


Nicky's picture

I first saw it when it came out on DVD long before I met DH and SS and didn't have much to say about it. Then, I saw it the other day again and it made me cry because I am a Stepmom now and have gone through some of the things that were in the movie !!!! I thought that the feelings that everybody was going through and the situations that arose were accurate, especially how the BM and SM clashed. I was moved! I just wish that my life with BM could be like how it was in the end of the movie, they accepted each other....

Colorado Girl's picture

BM dies dies at the end... I am totally kidding!!!!! Biggrin

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."

Colorado Girl's picture

I wouldn't be the only one!!!!!! Smile

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."

chellebelle143's picture

It would be nice if someone could script our interactions with BM. The problem is I would be totally receptive to us being at the very least civil to each other. Her moods are so unreliable that it is best we don't interact often. I read a book called "I'm not Julia Roberts" it was an ok read, but I thought it was a more accurate depiction of life as a Step than Stepmom was.

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Sita Tara's picture

Is actually a beautiful tale, and minus the tragic sappy hollywood ending, I think it sums up what some of us are lucky enough to have. (What built over years between my Ex, his wife and myself.) I did get seriously ill when I was single and they did come through on helping any way they could. In my case it was different b/c exH didn't want our divorce and sometimes he is still sad about it. His wife and I have actually briefly touched on that in conversations. And that can be awkward. But neither his wife or myself are jealous people. VERY helpful in this situation.

Though the plot is chick flick sappy, I think the movie accurately depicts the emotions from both sides. Susan Sarandon is a conniving and vindictive person in the beginning -probably hits home for many of us on this site. But she is also hugely sympathetic, even before her illness b/c of one line that makes us understand her insecurities. When her ex (played by Ed Harris) tells her he's engaged she says, "Why do you think it will work with her when it didn't with us?" It's a truthful moment where you really get to see inside her character. The loss of her marriage hurt her identity, so she threw ALL of her identity into her children. Plus he's engaged to a much younger, cooler, beginning of a huge career in photography, woman. Ouch.

The path the kids take toward loving their Stepmom is the best part of the plot, and I have seen some of that in my life.

But would they have reached their "one big family" status, celebrating Chirstmas together in the end of the movie if Susan wasn't dying?

That would have made a more interesting statement.

By the SD LOVES this movie. I think she wishes she had a BM like Sarandon's character rather than a SM like her.
Peace, love, and red wine

Colorado Girl's picture

that it definitely would've had a different ending. Sometime in order to change for the better, you need a life altering event. Susan Sarandon's character lost control of her situation and had to adapt. I think the difference in my situation is that her character was a WONDERFUL mother, just a horrible ex-wife. And actually she wasn't all that bad of an ex-wife, she just couldn't accept the new mother figure. And I can understand even relate to that.

BM in my case is not all of the above - she is an "average" mother, a horrible ex-wife and she is insanely jealous not only of me as a mother figure but also as a wife. I really don't know what it would take for BM to alter the way she is. I really don't even think her own mortality would change her. I think she'd still be screaming at DH, even from her death bed.

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."

Most Evil's picture