My Father's Day Plans.....what are your's?

I shouldn't do anything: he ignores Mother's Day because SD and I are estranged and he thinks that it is up to me to fix it. But I'll probably cave...I will get DH a card thanking him for what he does around the house etc, probably bring him coffee and muffin in bed.

Then....I leave. I am not going to be around and see him wait for the phone to ring or call his daughter and leave message after message. I can't stand to see him suffer and see him subject himself to this abuse.

I'll come back late afternoon/early evening and suggest that we barbeque. If it's nice - we can eat on the deck.

How about you?

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My husband never puts any

My husband never puts any thought into mothers day...despite our hectic lifestyle with 3 kids... and all the extra work I do for his kid... whatever.. This year I decided to give myself a break for fathers day... I bought DH a plane ticket, I'm sending DH across the country to visit a friend for a "guys long weekend".. this means I get a long weekend to myself...and SS will stay with his Mamma as Dadda is otherwise busy....

I will put SD6 and BS2 to do

I will put SD6 and BS2 to do some crafts (any idea) that DH can put in his classroom (he is a teacher) or that he can keep here.

I was thinking on getting him personalized M&M's and some other present (maybe a gift card for gamestop) with a card and a nice dinner. I don't know what else.

Heather.....I like the way

Heather.....I like the way you think!

Sunday June 13th.

I'll probably ask Princess if

I'll probably ask Princess if she wants to get him something and I'll take her, but usually her Grandmother takes her. I'll probably cook his favorite meal or something.

Steperg is right - it's the

Steperg is right - it's the 20th not the 13th. Read my calendar wrong!

LOL@Katrinkie

My day won't be much

My day won't be much different that yours, Glynne...

Ah, the joys of adult SDs (although mine have improved dramatically in the past 4 fours....)

I recall vividly, 4 years ago,my H sitting in his "daddy daddy" recliner, on Father's Day waiting to see if either of his 3 Ds (25, 24, 21 at the time) would call him and "surprise" him with taking him to lunch, whatever....

I couldn't believe my frigging ears and eyes.....a beautiful, sunny day, and YOU are gonna sit here and WAIT to see "if" they have something planned for you? We could have done a gazillion different things, but he already had his day planned.....I left and did something else (my daughter was with her dad for the day, she was 14 at the time...)

So, I learned over the years. If there's the chance that there are plans with them, I find something else to do. Let him enjoy the day with them.

If he knows they have other things going on and he has nothing to do, I treat it like any other Sunday. If it's nice and he wants to go golfing or play tennis, then maybe for something to eat, we'll do just that.

But, no way will I "go with" and hang out with him and his Ds. Let him enjoy their company; I'd rather go watch paint dry!!:)

(I might have to see what my pal Mustang is doing that day....her son is probably going to be with his dad.....I'll PM ya, girlfriend!!:)

LOL @ Katrinkie!! I think

LOL @ Katrinkie!! I think this year I won't do anything for DH. Two years ago, I was the ONLY person who gave him a card or gift. His 2 kids didn't even call. I felt weird buying him a present, because he "ain't my daddy", but when I saw how hurt and upset he was, I was glad I made the effort. Last year, I called his kids, arranged for them to come over and cooked dinner for everyone. (They were disappointed I didn't take everyone out for an expensive meal. How come they always want sushi or Benihana???) Anyway, his kids are (almost)22 and (almost)20 -- they are freaking old enough to plan something themselves.

I even told SD a week ago that Father's day was the 20th, and it would be REALLY NICE for DH to see his kids. I told her I'd be happy to cook everyone dinner if they needed me to, but that IT WOULD BE REALLY NICE TO SEE HIS KIDS THAT DAY. Think she got the hint??? We'll see..