I am not going to say ONE word
Except here on ST. I haven't posted in awhile but need to decompress and vent a little. Brief history: Married 18 years, 27 YO SD and I are estranged with a distant and polite relationship. SD has been attending college since she was 18 - no degree as of yet and is now on her 3rd or 4th (I've lost count) attempt at a degree or certification. Earlier this year DH co-signed a loan to pay for SD's latest attempt: nursing program.
SD has now blown through those $'s, got "laid off" from her restaurant job but for some reason does not qualify for unemployment (my guess is that she got fired) and DH is now transferring $'s into her checking on a regular basis. Just checked the bank and he has transferred $800 just this week.
DH and I were just talking about our retirement plans and he questioned ME about my spending habits. No wonder he shut up when I mentioned that I could go through and analyse BOTH of our expenses. We are okay moneywise but I am just fed up with his enabling behavior. If he brings up our retirement and a budget for us again - I will not only do a spreadsheet of expenses on our accounts but I will analyse SD's spending as well - I have access into her info. Bar bills, tanning, nails & clothes - that is what she spends her $'s on. And that would be OK by me BUT DH is still supporting her at 27 going on 28 YO!!!
Unbleepin' Believable.
DEEP BREATH......
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WOW I owe my dad some money
WOW I owe my dad some money but I bought a truck from him hence he didn't GIVE it to me! I pay him $200 a month till it is paid off and I never missed a payment. why do these parents seem to think it is a good idea to keep supporting their ADULT child!!???
Oh Yes SD is the entitled
Oh Yes
SD is the entitled princess, she knows it and I know. DH doesn't have a clue. I use to be so angry and resentful towards her but the real problem is DH. This man who I love is noboby's fool EXCEPT his daughter's. And boy does she have him wrapped around her little french tipped finger! He has enabled her all of her life and she has grown into a self absorbed immature little twit. Should she take a good look at herself and grow up? Absolutely. But why should she when Daddy continues to support and pay?
I, like many of you, have been independent and self supporting since I was 17. My parents didn't have a lot of $'s so I couldn't depend on them. Part of my problem with SD is I don't GET her - I don't understand or respect her.
Yep - if DH even hints at our budget - I will prepare the spreadsheets and he cannot argue with the facts. What he does with the info is his business as long as he backs off about my expenses.