Am I asking too much?
Ok, so last thursday was SD5's preK Graduation and it was over by 11:30 AM. She was going to stay with us until Sunday and then she was going to be gone for about 3 weeks, because she was going to her mother's (and DH's) home state in a road trip or whatever...
And BM and her boyfriend were/are leaving on Sunday...
At the Graduation she said "I will email you a list of the items I need for SD5's trip"... Ok... GREAT... Well... That was Thursday morning... NO EMAIL thursday afternoon/night... NO EMAIL friday, NO EMAIL saturday (today) until I told DH "send her an email asking for the items she needs, I don't want last minute requests" and of course I didn't want her to call... oh well.. he DID send the email... and... NO RESPONSE...
hours later, when we were about to go out and have dinner, DH realizes he has a voicemail from BM saying "call me"... after dinner she calls again and starts talking about the items she wants... DH says "hold on, I will call you when we get home because I'm not gonna remember everything"
OF COURSE.... my BLOOD BOILS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
As it is boiling right now...
She said "i'm not home" so she can't send an email... hmmm OK... how about the past days?
why is she so goddamn irresponsible...
We had an argument of course, because I told him that he "goes with the flow" with her, he should have never answered the phone, NOR offered to "write down the items" after she had said "I will send you an email" 2 days earlier... and never did
Of course, always her FUCKN WAY...
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
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Gia
Why can't BM just get the stuff for the trip?
Since she spends
more time here, and we actually have a room for her here (not in Bm's boyfriend's house) where she sleeps on a couch...
Most of her clothes, shoes, and entertainment items are here...
~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's
Oh and later on he said...
"Fine, i will not call her, and if she doesn't send an email, she will have to come here and tell us the items when she comes to get her... UGHHHHHHHHHH NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
HELL NO... why would I want to interact (or have DH interact with her) in person ONLY because she couldn't send a damn email?
Please, as you read, have in mind that she doesn't have a job, she lives off of her boyfriend... she has NOTHING else to do... but she couldn't send the email...
I don't like to have things unplanned... I do not want to rush to find an item only because she couldn't send an email...
~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's
Gia!
I totally and completely hear you!! This is exactly the sort of thing that the BM I deal with here would do. She's just too busy living her own stupid selfish life to even care about anyone else, let alone her own daughter! C'mon - in addition to what she's doing to you and DH, she's putting her own daughter's needs at risk by not communicating them soon enough!!! I feel your pain in so many ways. The part that really sucks is that it seems like if you don't get the stuff, then SD will be caught in the middle and BM will be like, "well, I asked your dad and Gia".... right? For me, I can't deal with that... I do make DH get on the phone and call BM and ask her and say... hey, it's getting late. Tell us what you need or not. And then, I hate to say it, but we do tell SD, we are trying to find out what you need from your mom and we'll go get it as soon as we know. I think your SD is too young to do that. It sounds like you won't win, so you might as well make it happen the best way for you at this point. If you HAVE to get the stuff... what would be the best way for you guys to get it...Call her and just go? Or get it tomorrow before they leave? or what??
I actually agree
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
I wouldn't buy anything for
I wouldn't buy anything for the trip. It is her time with her and her responsibility. Don't let her control you like that.
NONO
is not about buying... is just that most of her belongings are in this house...
~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's
Gia!
Sorry - you just mean what you should pack of her things? Then, just pack what you guys think she will need. Do you know where she's going? You and DH can probably figure out better than BM what SD will need, as you live with her every day. Don't second guess yourself. Just pack it and do what Danyelle says... If it's there, it's there, if it's not... BM should have let us know sooner!
Gia - is SD gone?
DId you pack everything and just let her go? Or did BM show up and try to give you last minute instructions? Does this mean you now have Hubby all to yourself for 3 weeks???
I told DH
that we were going to pack a few things for SD5 and that if BM wanted something else he HAD to tell her NO...
he AGREED... (surprisingly) and said that was a good idea, he was also upset because of her irresponsible behavior...
Well... BM came to pick her up, and nothing was mentioned at all... SD5 left with the backpack and that was it...
The end...
LOL
~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's