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Sick Kids...follow CO?

FTMandSM's picture

SD3 is sick, not just a cold sick but she is vomiting. IMO, I don't think she should come over for visitation. For the simple reason that I know when I feel that shitty, I don't want to be in car and I just want to stay where I am. We live 45 min. away. I think she should stay at her mom's until she feels better. Let's say she starts to feel better Saturday morning, come over then. I just odn't think it's the right thing to do to drag her out in rainy cold weather when she is sick.

What do you guys do when your Skid/BioKid is sick, follow the CO?

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Jmom's picture

Oh Lord! I posted this once and got blasted. The majority of people catered to the thought of let the sick kid come . . .dad should be able to take care of sick kid just like mom.

In my case SD13 was vomiting and had explosive diarreah and BM sent her any way. I could not believe that a mom would send their kid that sick and not take care of her. I like to take care of my own kid and I know my kid likes to be in his own bed when he's sick. I don't see anything wrong with skid not coming for a visit when they are sick.

FTMandSM's picture

OH no!!! I hope this doesn't blow up. It's not the fact that SO can't take care of her because he can. He hates it when his baby girl is sick. That's not a reason or excuse I'm trying to go with. I wouldn't want my kids going anywhere if they were really sick. And if SD got sick at our house, then she should stay until she felt better. I think it may be that she has a stomach bug.

BM is high conflict, I'm trying not to look at it this way. Yes she could throw this in his face. But at the same time, as a parent, would you want to shuttle your kid 45 min away from home? IDK, maybe he should get her. I guess it depends on the person.

overworkedmom's picture

I think that if the kid is sick, do a make up double weekend next weekend. It's not about mom vs. dad being able to care for the kid. It is about just letting her rest and not infecting another house! Contain the spread of germs!

FTMandSM's picture

This is what I was thinking. It's not about the mom and dad in this situation, it's about her getting better. I didn't really think of her infecting the house, I just want her to get better. But I don't want her infecting the house either. We have a 2 month old who just got over having the flu virus. A stomach bug would not be a good thing.

Shaman29's picture

My feeling is if it's a cold or something along those lines, the skid should go see the NCP.

However in a case where there's vomiting, diarrhea, body aches and fever, the poor kids should stay with the CP. No one, and I mean no one likes to be moved when they are sick.

omgsaveme's picture

So on the flip side if the SK gets sick at your house for 5 days with the flu, he's to stay at your house ? I would think the parents would be fine to take their kids if they are sick. What I can't stand is when people take their sick kids all over the place to the store or to the playground, I hate that. Its annoying and disgusting, when my kids are sick we stay in.

FTMandSM's picture

We decided to get her. She doesn't seem to be as sick as BM said. SO was afraid that BM could be lying. He fears that she will start to lie about her being sick just to get extra time.

Thanks everyone for the advice!!