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I did it!! **Update**

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I was looking over my blog and I can't believe I posted on 7/26 that I was going to leave my now EX bf. Which ladies and a few gentlemen, was the BEST decision I have ever made! I had to move out and did so at the end of September as I had to get money etc all together. The main reason I say it was the best decision I made was because the day after (literally) he moved in his new woman. I was hurt at first then bucked up and realized that I was crying over someone who was a complete cheating asshole. I got over it and now I have never been happier.

Leaving the Step World

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Good morning everyone! I haven't been on here in a long time, things were getting better with minor road bumps until Sunday. I thought something was going on as my BF (we've been together going on 5 years) pretty much stopped talking to me, was on his phone a lot and was being distant. Well, I went through his phone (I know many people don't condone this, but I just had to find out for myself). I was right people, he was talking to not only one but two other women!! This is actually the third time I have caught him doing something like this. We have a son and I stayed because of him.

UPDATE...Order of protection on FDH's dad

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Well, after work myself and FDH went to the Sherriff's office to talk to a Deputy. After waiting for over an hour, I was told that I can't file for on order of protection because the text message didn't actually say he was going to kill me. And that what FDH's dad sent was to "vague". So we had the Deputy call his dad. At least they know that some type of action was taken place and the incident was documented. The deputy was actually really rude, but it's been documented. I wonder if it's because we are Mormon Shellfish....lol

A little O/T- I need to file on order of protection against My FDH's Dad....

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Wow, so last night shit got crazy with FDH's stepmom and Dad. The three of them have been talking on and off for the past 3 or 4 months. SDstb4 b-day is coming up and we are just doing a small dinner for her at the house. He invited his Grandma and Grandpa and his cousin. He didn't invite his parents because they haven't spoken in a couple months.

NYS- SD is on Medicaid and they are "making" her file for CS..Advice

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Need some advice. Myself or FDH aren't really sure what to expect or do. BM is saying that she got a letter in the mail stating the NYS Medicaid is filing for CS. Not sure what to expect or do:
Facts:
-SD is on Medicaid
-BM and FDH do not have a court ordered CS amount, he pays her an agreed upon amount each month in the form of a check. Noted "SD Child Support MONTH"

Dealing....

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So after the disagreement with FDH and BM, BM has kept SD away from him for two days so far. He has been getting her on Monday and Thursday because BM got a new job and didn't have a "babysitter" those days. It's not written in the custody agreement, as I told FDH to get done.

Classy BM

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FDH drops 3 year old...he was telling her about SD behaviour.

BM looks at SD "SD, your father is a fucking dipshit"

FDH Turns and walks away...Now we know for sure where SD gets her attitude and rudeness from.

It will never change and things will always be awful....

That is all.

You know what really Grinds My Gears...

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A vent about BM....

This is just a vent. I really need to get this off my chest and tell someone. I haven't been here a while, going through quite a bit of emotional recourse etc. Any way Christmas was great, we had SD3 (almost 4) on Christmas Eve into the morning and her face was priceless!! BS1 could care less about opening anything, he just wanted to chew on everything!!!

So much negativity....

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I feel like there is so much negetivity surrounding my self and FDH, mainly due to FDH's past and family. BM is and will always be an issue. His parents have created such a shit storm with Thanksgiving and a few other things. They will not be attending DS's 1st birhtday next month. It's crazy to think so much negativity can surround one person. I often think how different my life would be if I wasn't with him. But I know the grass isn't always greener on the other side.

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