It’s amazing how often stepparents are the only people who are able to see see through all the lies, manipulation, deceit and general BS and see skids for what they truly are when no one else can.

When you’re right in the thick of things dealing with skids on a regular basis, but not having the type of bonds and attachments that parents do, you can see things their parents don’t. You aren’t looking at the skid through rose colored glasses nor are you suffering from guilt or fear of alienation. And you have the full picture - not the picture that skids want to paint for therapists and teachers.

But what pisses me off is how many so-called experts get fooled by skids into believing their lies and bullshit.

After everything that happened, SD15 still is able to have others wrapped around her finger getting pity, sympathy and coddled and no one is holding her accountable for her actions. (SD15 is living with her aunt and uncle in another state because of the problems she caused in our home).

DH received a phone call from her new therapist to discuss the issues with SD15 last week, and I can’t believe how badly SD15 & her aunt and uncle have distorted reality to the therapist. She is continuing to blame me and her father for everything that happened, not accept any responsibility for her actions.

She continues to justify the disrespectful way she treated her father and I. She isn’t the least bit apologetic about what she did. Nothing ever is her fault. She is a perpetual victim.

You’d think a trained psychotherapist would be able to see through the lies and crocodile tears and see SD15 for the lying, manipulative brat she is who has no empathy for others and is so self-centered she believes she’s the only person in the universe who’s matters. But, no. She continues to be enabled by professionals who tell her she’s right and her father and I are wrong.

I told him he needed to set the therapist straight and tell her what really happened, but when he spoke to her again, it didn’t help. The therapist still believes SD15 is a sweet & innocent, poor abused kid who was treated horribly by her wicked stepmother and kicked out of the house for no reason. It’s the same BS as the two therapists she had when she lived here.

The therapist laid into DH with all the problems that SD15 is facing (which is going to take years of therapy to fix - meaning tens of thousands of dollars for the therapist- what an amazing scam therapists have going) and gave him a list of “homework” assignments with books he has to read and tasks he needs to do. She also required him to fly there once a month to participate in a family therapy session (I’m not invited).

He completely buckled and agree to everything. Daddy Guilt won’t let him stand up for himself or for me. But there is absolutely no way he can afford to fly there every month.

Did the therapist want to talk to me? Did she want to know my side of the story? No, I’m just a stepmom so what I think doesn’t count.

All DH keeps hearing from SD15‘s aunt and uncle is how well she’s doing, how well behaved she is, how well she’s doing in school, how responsible she is and them blaming him and primarily me for why things didn’t work out with her living with us. They’re completely fooled by her and Dr Jekyll & Mr Hyde personas.

SD15 is still refusing to speak to her dad, and her aunt and uncle say they “respect her decision”.

DH feels like a failure as a father. He’s taking it very personally and I feel so sorry for him. He’s still distraught over having to send SD15 away. I hate that we’re the getting blamed and no one is holding SD15 accountable for her behavior and keep excusing it away with psychology BS.

I wish I had video taped SD15‘s antics here towards me to show them what their precious angel is capable of.

I don’t see what good therapy does when they believe the lies and the story the way the kid wants to spin it. If you want a real assessment of a kid, ask their stepparent. They know the truth.