Skids from Non-Committed Relationships & One Night Stands
I keep seeing the trend that the major problem skids are the ones from these types of relationships not divorce. They weren’t born into a two parent home which means they’re completely messed up from the start. It’s the skids who poop all over themselves, lie, cheat, steal, do drugs and ruin stepfamilies.
But it is not the normal skid problems of being upset over their parents divorce. There was no intact family. Their parents never lived together. They don’t even know what an intact family is.
What people don’t understand is these kids have no sense of family, no respect for parents or marriage and entirely narcissistic and only care about themselves. These kids will never, ever work out in a stepfamily situation. My words of wisdom are - if you dating a guy with a kid like this, run as fast as you can.
The goodie-goodies are going to say all you need is love to fix kids like this, but they just don’t get it. These kids don’t want an intact, two parent family.
My (soon to be former) SD was actively trying to break stb-xH and I up, encouraging her half-brothers (same dad, different BM) to be pains in the ass and not cooperate with the custody agreement and telling them to refuse to see their dad and complain to their mom about me.
Why? She didn’t want her “parents” back together. She hasn’t seen her mom in nearly 10 years. She didn’t want her dad all to herself. She hates him and wants nothing to do with him. IMO, she just wanted to destroy a normal family for the sake of it.
For those that don’t recall, my (soon to be former) SD was the result of a casual hookup her dad (stb-xH) had with her BM as a teenager. BM lied and said she was taking birth control and stb-xH got a letter a year and a half later saying he needed to take a DNA test with a bunch of other guys because BM was on public assistance. Unfortunately, he “won”.
All three of BM’s kids have different fathers. Only SD15‘s father had anything to do with his child. When BM had her kids taken away because of abuse and put in emergency foster care, stb-xH’s was the only one of the dads that showed up. And her half-siblings hold a grudge about this - she actually has a dad and that’s a bad thing to them.
Not to gloat, but I heard through the grapevine that f-SD15 is going to be living with her half-sister, not xH. Even after he left me, she still refuses to live with him. I have a serious case of Schadenfreude here.
When SD was living with us (at 14), her older half-siblings did everything possible to undermine our parental authority. When SD got into trouble, her half-siblings told her she was right, her dad was wrong. For example, her half-brother sent her a new cell phone after hers was taken away because she was failing most of her classes. Her half-siblings never, ever told her that she needed to do what her dad said and that she needed to behave. No, they completely encouraged her to be as disobedient as possible and that her dad and I were wrong and she didn’t need to do anything we said.
Within the next 5 years, stb-former SD15 and her half-siblings could be having kids of their own and they have absolutely no desire at all to have a two parent family. They’ve never lived in a two parent family. They don’t understand them or have any respect for marriage or understanding about the relationships between husbands and wives. What the heck kind of families will they have? How f’d up are their kids going to be?
Looking back, SD’s BM’s father was abusive and SD’s grandmother had left him, so, BM grew up without a father. Then BM gives birth to three out of wedlock kids and abandons them. Only SD15 grew up with a father, her half-siblings were raised by their grandmother.
How bad are things going to be for the stepparents of any kid unfortunate enough to have those brats as parents? For them, it will likely be three generations since their ancestors lived in a typical two family household or even had a relationship with their father.
What the hell is happening to our society?