So Sick of Everyone Kissing SD’s Ass
I’m so sick and tired of there never being any consequences for SD15‘s bad behavior. I’m waiting for her to get her just desserts, but everyone around her just coddles her and makes sure that poor SD15 has everything she wants and never suffers any negative consequences from the problems she’s brought on herself.
Now its like her dad is walking on glass trying to avoid upsetting her so he win her back over and get her to stop hating him. So he’s absolutely unwilling to actually parent her or call her out on bullshit that would actually make a difference. Instead, all she gets is praise for being a brat.
Yesterday DH got SD15‘s grades for the 1st Quarter (keep in mind, these are classes she’s taking again because she failed nearly all of her classes last year being a lazy brat when she was living with us) - and she has a 3.75 GPA. DH is practically rubbing in my face how “well” she’s doing living with her aunt & uncle.
Why is this a big deal? She’s taking classes for the 2nd time that she should have passed last year if she wasn’t self-centered, entitled brat. Any idiot could get an A if they are repeating a class.
Does anyone point this out? No. Everyone keeps telling her how great she is. Her dad, aunt & uncle and half-siblings make it out like last school year she was sick with some deadly disease and now she’s trying to catch up and it’s miraculous that she’s doing things that are expected of any other child. The comments from her teachers on her progress reports made me want to vomit.
Does anyone tell her that everything that happened last year was a result of her terrible behavior and she is the one to blame? No, nothing is ever her fault. She’s never held accountable for anything.
Why are grades the sole judge of if a kid is doing well or not. She’s still a self-centered brat that’s only doing her school work now that she’s being given everything she wants.
What does it matter if she’s getting A’s when she’s still a horrible human being? She’s being disrespectful to her father, will barely speaks to him and tells him to f**k off.
Why am I a bad parent because she failed 9th grade and her aunt & uncle are Parents of the Year because she’s on the Honor Roll?
When she lived with us, the world didn’t revolve around her, she wasn’t given everything she wanted and she was treated like a child who was expected to behave, follow rules, be corrected and disciplined. Her aunt & uncle treat her like she’s a college student and give her adult status and anything she wants.
DH keeps going on and on about how responsible she’s being since she’s taking additional online classes so she can graduate on time. (which wouldn’t be an issue if she had actually done anything last year!!). But she’s taking junk classes like Web Design and Art Appreciation that any moron could pass. She gets to take the easy way out of everything.
I know I need to completely disengage and tell my DH that I no longer want to hear anything that’s going on with his brat and pretend she doesn’t exist. Not my kid, not my problem.
But if I don’t say anything, her dad is going to keep turning blind eye to her behavior and I know he wants to use her good grades as reason why she should live with us gain. And it pisses me off to no end to see a girl get away with manipulating people this badly.
I wish for once there would be consequences that would stick.
Last school year when she was failing miserably and wasn’t phased by any typical punishments, I told him to take away something that would actually get her attention. So we told her that if she wanted to go visit her half-siblings and other relatives back in her hometown that summer, she needed to pass all of her classes. If not, there was going to be hell to pay and she couldn’t go.
She retaliated by not even bothering to answer any questions on her final exams and only doodling on them. She didn’t even try. No effort at all.
And what did her dad do? Absolutely no follow through on the consequences. He let her exactly what she wanted and let her stay with her half-sister for the whole summer then go live with her aunt, uncle and half-brother.
No wonder she’s learned that if she doesn’t like something, she simply rebels and throws tantrums like toddler until she gets what she wants and everyone around her coddles her, tells her her dad and I are wrong and let her take the easy way out.