Do Skids Have Selective Memory on Purpose?!
SD9 seems to never remember any of the good, fun, awesome things we do for her (after 3 yrs of being with us full-fucking-time), yet, when she spends a couple of weeks with loser felony-$4,600 behind in CS BM, over the summer, SD decides that BM is so much fucking fun because she took her for ice cream and McDonald's kids meals all summer. Mind you, this is the BM who didn't send a damn thing for birthdays OR Christmas, and we had to FORCE BM to spend this summer with SD. SD does not realize that BM does not give one rat's ass about anyone/anything but her own self, yet, now BM is a HERO because she took SD for cheap-ass food & ice cream all summer.
Reeeaaaaaly? 2 days before SD left for this brilliant summer break, DH & I took SD for Doc Berstein's ice cream (the best in Central CA) AND we took SD to the beach, Disneyland, Universal Studios, San Diego, San Francisco, not to mention Hawaii TWICE (once on a fkng cruise ship to see ALL of the Hawaiian Islands!). We did Santa Clause, Tooth Fairy, birthdays, friends' birthdays, pretty much every thing you could ever want...oh, did I mention stability and friends within walking distance? So now, SD swears up & down that we NEVER took her for ice cream or anything fun!
So, I guess skids will always remember only what they want to remember...their fantasy about the absent parent, right?
How does a full-time full custody SM come to terms with the never-ending sacrifices we have to make for someone who doesn't even acknowlege or remember the "fun" times??