SS's Daily Homework Log (Week 2)
Day 6: I come home to find SS doing work on his bed. I ask what is he doing. He says he is doing a geography assignment. I ask “Why aren’t you doing it on your de – eh?…” I was about to say ‘desk’ as I turn to it. His desk has disappeared. In its place is a mountain pile of empty Coke cans, lego blocks, a slinky, and other junk. “What the!? SS! WHAT IS THIS MESS!?”. SS just shrugs his shoulders. Apparently we have a poltergeist that likes piling sh*t up on SS’s desk. I go ask DW about it. Later, after supper is finished, DW tells SS that he is to finish up his homework and that he is to clean his desk afterwards. This is part of his daily chores so it shouldn’t be piled high with crap. SS finishes his homework but has no time to clean it because he needs to get ready for bed.
Day 7: SS is in a hyper mood. SS is in his room doing his homework but he comes out of his room every 2 minutes to talk to DW about something or to play with BS and BD. I tell SS to get back into his room to study three times, (the third time I yelled). BS and BD don’t understand why SS has to retreat back into his room so they follow him. I corral them both and tell BS and BD to get out of SS’s room. SS cannot be distracted. Unfortunately, my two bios don’t understand this and they start to cry. They want to play with SS and Daddy is being a meanie-poo-poo-head *sigh*. I look at DW and she can see in my face that I am getting frustrated. SS’s desk is still a mess.
Day 8: This day is almost a repeat of Day 7. SS is still hyper but this time it is DW that yells at him to stay on task. The karate studio calls. They want to know if SS intends to continue the courses. DW and I were not sure and we need to discuss it. I want SS to continue the courses because he NEEDS the discipline (and it makes him sleep soundly through the night). Unfortunately, money is tight at the moment and DW and I need to keep money aside for a tutor for SS. I tell DW that it is painfully obvious, judging from SS’s attitude and his inability to stay focused on his homework, that his next report card is not going to be any better that the last one and that hiring a tutor is inevitable. DW says that she is getting a raise at work. Her probationary period is over and as per terms of her contract, she is getting a substantial raise. So it is possible for SS to continue his karate lessons and get tutoring. I feel somewhat relieved. SS’s desk is still a mess.
Day 9: I arrive home early. As I pull into the driveway, I see that the living room TV is on. I come into the house. The TV is now off and SS is in his room. I greet him and ask him about his homework. He says he can’t do it. “Why not?” I ask. SS responds “I need to use my computer but the internet is slow”. There’s a long uncomfortable pause between us. Our internet connection is the top of the line in our area. “You truly expect me to believe that!?” I ask. “SS, I am not an idiot! You could have used the laptop or the iPad to search the net. Oh but no! Instead I come home to catch you watching TV!”. SS is silent most of the evening, especially after I tell DW what happened. SS’s desk is still a mess.
Day 10: SS has a project due. Every time we ask him about it he says he is on top of it but most of the work has been done at his Dad’s place (he’s been working on it on the weekends). Since most of the work has been done at his Dad’s he has left it there even after we have told him repeatedly to remember to bring this stuff back to our house. The day before it is due, SS realizes he has left some “key” components to the project at his Dad’s place. We call up his Dad. His Dad says he can email us the portion that is missing but this would mean that SS has to redo the gluing, the cutting and pasting, etc. SS stays up until 11:00pm (2 hours past his bed time trying to finish this off). Needless to say, we are not happy. DW must have yelled at him a dozen times. Normally she would back off once SS starts crying but this time she didn’t. I stay silent throughout this ordeal. Once SS finally goes to bed, DW and I sit on the couch with a couple of cold beers. SS’s desk is in even more of a mess.
My thoughts: I was really frustrated and angry on Day 9. I was close to actually calling the cable company to cancel the cable feed but I later thought that would have been a little extreme. DW is doing her best to stay on top of SS, but with her job, the stress, it gets difficult at times. I knew there were going to be weeks like this; where nothing goes right, so I felt it important to cap this blog entry with a positive note. DW took SS to the child therapist the other day and SS admitted that part of the “problem” (as he sees it) stems from two buddies of his that he hangs out with at school. They are a bad influence and SS said they teased him the other day when SS didn’t want to hang out with them and show up late to class. So I am glad to see that SS doesn’t submit himself to peer pressure.