I disengaged from my 4 hateful, disrespectful SK's after 6 years of pain. I had come to the point where I was believing I was this terrible person they trash-talked me to everyone about. When I got physically sick from the stress and DH doing nothing to help, that's when I decided enough is enough.
This past weekend, DH's oldest daughter showed up. I had a feeling he was wrong about her arrival date so I asked him to call her and find out when she was coming. She was already here, and hadn't bothered to communicate this with anyone. We were thinking the end of the month, from his previous conversation with her.
This was Friday. Saturday, I asked DH what his plans were so I could make my own and do something away from the house. I had absolutely no desire to see her and her little B*** who she stuffs with food consistently, thinking the kid will starve. The kid could live off his stomach for two weeks.
My DH did nothing to make a plan.
She shows up the next morning wanting to take my daughter to an outing. Knowing from the past that her invites mean we have to pay, I told my husband absolutely not. Finance were tight this past week and I said no to my daughter doing something Friday with her group of best friends, that tight.
My DH,with his head always in his ass when it comes to his kids, didn't even think to say no on the phone with her before she arrived that morning. I was like, think about how every invite has gone with her, no.
Duh!
So the weirdo leaves her friend in our house without saying a word and lets her sleep in my office without asking. I could care less that her friend was too tired for the outing and needed to rest, but she couldn't say anything to me or my daughter or DH? He had gone for a bit, I went to work out, and discovered the friend behind my closed door office, totally taken by surprise. I told the girl she could go lie down in my daughter's bed. She was very sorry, and I said don't be sorry, I just don't understand why you are on the floor and noone said anything to me that you were here.
Whatever. The SD shows up later with my SS's wife carrying their new baby. Mind you I haven't heard from the SS's wife since she and the SS wrote a nasty hate letter to me in response to a letter I sent HIM asking him to stop the trash talk and waving the white flag basically. I was thrown completely off guard and not mentally prepared at all to see this chick.
Not okay. Dh's daughter came outside where I was trying to breathe complaining about her sore feet from walking around that day, I could have cared less about her damn feet. I tore into her, that it, "is not okay that you come here and take over and allow people to show up without asking, this is my house too, and it's not okay!" To which she said, "whoa, whoa, whoa, time out...." making the hand gesture for time out, really???? I said, "this is complete bullshit", she walked away. She returned to the group oohing and aweing over SS's wife's baby. I grabbed my purse and left. DH texted me asking where I went to which I texted back< "if you don't understand how wrong all this has been today< I'm done!"
I am so hurt that he threw everything we discussed and agreed on out the window. Today, we aren't talking to each other. I wrote him a letter telling him that for 6 years I have been trampled on by his kids and he has allowed and obviously he loves them more because he does nothing to protect me when it comes to them.

-The Goldigging Whore