I disengaged from my 4 hateful, disrespectful SK's after 6 years of pain. I had come to the point where I was believing I was this terrible person they trash-talked me to everyone about. When I got physically sick from the stress and DH doing nothing to help, that's when I decided enough is enough.
So SD shows up without any word to my DH that she is in town. Then she comes over this morning asking to take our daughter to the zoo, of course we have to pay. I told my husband no, we don't have the money and my daughter didn't want to go with her anyway.
I can skim the internet but was wondering if anyone here has some good articles, etc. on the problems with enabling adult kids?
Since I have been married to my husband, several years now, I have been the one to pick out and buy, send, gifts to his kids and grandchildren for birthdays and Christmas. At this point, I have no relationship with his kids because they have chosen to nit-pick and find everything wrong with me over the years and hate, hate, hate instead of seeing the good person I am. I had to disengage after enduring too much mental, then physical stress, from these toxic relationships. But, I have continued to send presents at Christmas and birthdays for his kid's children.