SS’s mom asked for help with food for graduation party
I haven’t posted on here in forever! Mainly because I finally grew to like SS and didn’t find it necessary to vent anymore. However, DH just informed me that BM asked him if I’d be interested in providing food for SS’s high school grad party “with the rest of the girls.” He told her that I’m not interested before even telling me that she contacted him. He’s 100% right, I’m not interested. For several reasons.
First, I’m not big on cooking or bringing food to events. I’ll do it if I have to and if she needs anything in particular, I could definitely do that. But it’d probably be bought from the grocery store. Also, I’m just too damn busy with my preschooler and toddler and finishing up nursing school. I can barely keep my head above water as it is.
Second, why didn’t she just contact me in the first place? She and I have never talked via phone, text, email or otherwise, but we have talked at events involving SS. We have had polite conversations and there’s no animosity, so I don’t know why she didn’t just ask for my email or something and ask me directly.
Third, and most importantly, I hate how she said that it’s “the girls” who will be providing the food. Why can’t SS’s father be responsible for that? Something about that really irks me and I almost want to not do it solely on principle.
Since he’s told me this earlier today, I can’t stop thinking about it. I feel like I should contact her and offer to bring something. Maybe I’m just overthinking it, but I don’t want to be the b*#!@ SM who doesn’t support her SS. I like the kid well enough and I’m not opposed to helping out, I just don’t want to. Is that okay? Or is this a situation where I should just suck it up and pitch in?